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In today’s episode, we cover the 7 steps to unshakable confidence with David Nurse. David is an NBA life and optimization coach, future bestselling author, and worldwide motivational speaker. Confidence can be developed with consistent practice like any other skill, but what concrete steps can you take everyday to achieve the confidence you’ve always wanted? What to Listen For What is the common denominator of professional athletes that lead to success? Can you compare yourself to others in a healthy and positive way? How do you get people to be good teammates if they’re more concerned about themselves or their ego? What are the 7 steps you can take to achieve unshakable confidence? What does it mean to vote for yourself and why should you start voting for yourself now? What can you do to remind yourself of your potential to keep you from wasting time and falling into stagnation? What tips can you use to make your mornings and evenings effective parts of your day? How do you rewire your brain for t

In today’s episode, we answer your questions and cover FOMO with the person who coined the term, Patrick McGinnis. Patrick is a venture capitalist, writer, and speaker who coined the term FOMO, which was added to the Oxford English Dictionary in 2013. FOMO is nothing new but it seems worse now that we have endless options at our fingertips via the internet and social media, so how can we minimize the negative impacts of it and even turn it around and use it to help us make better decisions? What to Listen For What is FOMO and how does it challenge you when it comes to making small and big decisions? Does FOMO subside as we age? How has the COVID pandemic impacted our FOMO and will it be better or worse after pandemic passes? What does FOBO mean and how is it different from FOMO? Why is FOMO good for us and how do you prevent it from ruining your ability to enjoy life? When faced with a big decision and heavy FOMO, what can you do to make the best decision for your future without regretting the other o

Do you want to have control over your mentality and reactions? On today’s episode of the Art of Charm podcast, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak are joined by Dan Harris, the co-anchor of ABC News' Nightline and author of the bestselling book 10% Happier. Dan discusses his work with 10% Happier, the importance of meditation, and it's functionality. Tune in to get in tune with your mental wellbeing. Episode Resources: Check out Dan's books,10% Happier and Meditation For Fidgety Skeptics Listen to the 10% Happier Podcast Try the 10% Happier App What you’ll learn: [00:01:17] What is the benefit of living in a big city during the pandemic It’s a gamble to be in cities during the pandemic with high population density as it’s easier to pass illness where more people are gathered. [00:06:55] How do you get out of the loop of uncertainty in goal orientation and accountability towards future planning and events Focusing on mental health and doing activities like meditation to assist those efforts. [00:

On this special episode of the Art of Charm podcast, we're digging into 5 values and how they relate to the current issues that we're facing, 5 things that we think everyone should be doing to become more informed to start taking action, and finally 5 of our favorite charities to help start pushing the social needle in the right direction. Episode Resources: Donate to the ACLU Help Fuel the Fight - NAACP Donate to Mutual Aid Support EmbraceRace Support the Equal Justice Initiative Send Us Your Questions The Art of Charm Network A Word From Our Sponsors Stop the stress and anxiety your debt is causing. Find out how you can talk to a freedom debt solutions expert and get your free personalized debt consultation today. Go to FreedomDebtSolutions.com/CHARM Check-in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Send us your questions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we cover what it means to change someone’s mind with Jonah Berger. Jonah is a marketing professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and internationally bestselling author of Contagious, Invisible Influence, and The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone’s Mind. The art of persuading others goes back as far as humans have had ideas we wanted to convey to others, but what does it mean to change someone’s mind, how do we persuade people to change, and how can your understanding of persuasion save you from getting sold on bad ideas? What to Listen For Why are we as humans so resistant to changing our minds? What are the 5 roadblocks to change and how can we remove them so we and those around us can grow? What strategies can we use to get people to buy into an idea rather than trying to push the idea onto them? How can you ask the right questions to allow people to make better decisions? What can we do to create a catalyst for other people to change? Why is DropBox a great

Technology has had an undeniable impact on our society, in good and bad ways, so what are the bad ways, how can we mitigate the damage they cause, and what can we do to use these tools for good in our lives and those around us? What to Listen For What is the ICAN acronym and how can it help you achieve a social flow state and help you be your most authentic self? What questions can you ask yourself to stay mindful as we continue integrating technology into our daily lives? What is passive browsing versus active browsing and why does one have a negative impact on your well being? What can you do if you feel your team is missing the energy and motivation you were hoping for? How can you make Zoom meetings fun and engaging when everyone seems preoccupied with what’s going on around them? What simple, free technique can you implement as a leader to improve your team’s effectiveness as well as your well being and effectiveness? What is social flow, why do you need to understand it, and how can you tap into

Many of us have heard the phrase, “Happiness is a choice” - but what does a happiness expert think about that and what can you do if you feel like you’re unable to make that choice? What to Listen For What are the Four Tendencies and how do they determine how you respond to expectations and your ability to be happy? What’s the alternative if you feel you can’t just choose to be happy? What steps can you take in your environment that will make it easier to be happy? What does it mean for emotions to be contagious and how can your understanding of it help prevent you from feeling down? How do novelty and challenge contribute so significantly to your ability to be happy? What can you do to raise your self-awareness? What can you do if you find yourself being the victim of analysis paralysis so you don’t waste too much time thinking about a decision? Once you understand your tendency, how do you recognize the Four Tendencies in others and what is the best way to work with them or help them reach their po

It’s no surprise that many of us can be overwhelmed with the day-to-day events of our lives, so how are we supposed to plan for so many unforeseen events like the COVID-19 pandemic, what is upstream thinking and why is it relevant today more than ever? What to Listen For What is the difference between upstream and downstream thinking and why can one lead you to a life of cyclical misery? What is unique about the American healthcare system that has led to us only focusing downstream? What is quiet competence and why does it make us less attentive to potential catastrophes? How can we get people to think more upstream so we are not impacted so negatively by crises? What is psychological standing and how does it prevent you from doing the right thing in a wide range of situations we find ourselves in regularly? What are the 7 questions leaders need to ask themselves if they don’t want to fail miserably at handling the next upstream problem? What can you do to unite the right people to handle a complicate

In today’s episode, we cover dealing with uncertainty and stress with Dr. Domenick Sportelli. Dr. Domenick is a board certified physician in adult general psychiatry and child & adolescent psychiatry, and is widely sought-after for his expertise on the latest in medical behavioral health, child/family psychiatry, and neuropharmacology. Introduction This is an era of uncertainty we haven’t faced in this generation and it’s wreaking havoc on many of us psychologically, so what can you do to better cope with the stress and loneliness you might be feeling and what should you be doing as a parent to be a good role model for your kids? What to Listen For How do we deal with uncertainty and stress many of us are dealing with in isolation? How much of a psychological toll is the pandemic taking on medical professionals? What kind of psychological fallout will we be facing as we recover from the COVID-19 pandemic and what can we do to prepare ourselves? What should we tell our kids about COVID-19 and how do we t

Being stuck at home right now can feel like you’re putting your life on pause, but it doesn’t have to - so what can you do to keep working on yourself especially when it comes to being social or stretching your comfort zone? What to Listen For How did Yes Theory get their start and what can you learn from them that could enable you to achieve your dreams so faster than you thought possible? Why is it important to try things that scare you? How do you know when you’ve done enough planning before doing? When was the tipping point for the Art of Charm? How do you improve your social skills if you’re scared to go out and talk to strangers? When can you take advantage of practicing small talk with minimal effort to improve your social skills? What’s the first step you can take to build a growth mindset during or after the quarantine period? How do you stay motivated in the dating world when regular rejection is an integral part of the process? If you want to achieve great things for yourself, it’s impor

This is a trying time for the restaurant industry and any business that relies on social gathering, so what can business owners do to not only survive this pandemic, but thrive in it and after it? What to Listen For What does the future of the restaurant industry look like in a post COVID world and how might restaurants need to evolve in order to survive? Why do we have to motivate and communicate differently at work during this pandemic, and what is the best way to do both? How can this pandemic have a disastrous lingering effect on our ability to move forward as a society and what can we do to save ourselves from the aftermath? What should restaurants do to adapt during this pandemic so they can survive until things are normal again? What can we do to support the restaurant industry during this incredibly difficult time when people are avoiding going out? How do you view a crisis as an opportunity so you can come out ahead when so many people are complaining and just treading water or giving up? Wha

It can be difficult to get ahead at work when someone else is always taking credit for what the team does, but what can you do to deal with selfish individuals in a professional manner, how can you be a giver and not get taken advantage of, and how do matchers balance givers and takers? What to Listen For What are 5 minute favors and how can you use them to build a powerful network? How do you deal with selfish personalities who always try to take credit for the success of the team? What can you do if you’re a giver (versus a taker) and you’re struggling to show your value in the workplace? What are matchers and why are they important to balance givers and takers? What would Adam Grant change about “Give and Take” if he were to rewrite it today? What question should you ask a hiring manager to get an actual understanding of a company’s culture? Are extroverts better leaders than introverts? While it’s frowned upon to be a taker, it’s also not great for your own well being to be too much of a giver,

Procrastination is associated with laziness by many, but the science shows us otherwise - so if procrastinators aren’t lazy then why do we assume they are, what can you do about your procrastination if you want to change it, and why is now the best time to overcome your procrastination habit? What to Listen For What can you do today to overcome your procrastination habits? How do we redesign jobs that now have to operate from a distance? Why is it more challenging to work remotely and what can you do to overcome them so you don’t lose your job? What questions can you ask someone to help them figure out what motivates them so you can help them become a happier and more productive employee? What can we do as leaders to help our coworkers and employees grapple with the loneliness that accompanies working from home for many people? What is one of the most powerful antidotes to loneliness that we can give people any time? What simple exercise can you go through with your employees or coworkers to immedia

If you are now working remotely and socially distancing yourself, it doesn’t mean you have to stop being social or let your productivity slide, but what can you do to work on your social skills, grow your network, and knock your productivity out of the park so you can come out the other side of this with countless opportunities? What to Listen For What can you do to work on your social skills when we’re trying to socially isolate ourselves? How do you stay social when going out and meeting people isn’t an option? What can you do to stay focused and energized when working from home? How do you work on building your professional network when more and more conferences and networking events are being cancelled as people embrace social distancing? What can you say when you’re trying to reach out to people you’ve never met but wanted to? How can you be productive when working from home and why is it so important to maintain the same routine you use when at the office? What should you focus on when establish

You don’t need to be in a leadership position in order to be a leader, but what does it mean to be a leader no matter where you are and how can you develop your leadership skills in today’s world? What to Listen For What can we do to become the leaders that are needed during this pandemic? How should we approach the creation of rules and standards in a professional setting and why can it be detrimental if just one person is responsible for such things? Why is it important to live a value-driven life both professionally and personally, and why are values more important than rules? How can an open-door policy in companies be detrimental to productivity and what should you implement in place of it that still allows for open communication? What are the 3 parts we should divide our days into and why can the structure have such a profound impact on our fulfillment and productivity? How can living by a calendar make you more productive than making to-do lists to accomplish the same tasks? What can you do to

Social anxiety has an impact that goes far beyond a discomfort interacting with people and can lead to substance abuse, depression, and suicidal ideation, so what can you do to overcome your social anxiety, how do your diet and physical health impact it, and how is technology playing a significant role in all of this? What to Listen For What is social anxiety and how do we deal with it during COVID-19 when social distancing is important? How do we deal with social anxiety now that social distancing is becoming a normal part of our daily lives? How did Mark Metry overcome his social anxiety and what can you learn from his journey so you can overcome your social anxiety before it ruins your life? How does your gut microbiome influence your social anxiety and mental wellbeing? How can looking at yourself in terms of hardware and software with regards to your self-development journey blow open your perspective on your overall health? Why is it important to tackle social anxiety after you’ve established a s

Rituals are powerful tools cultures have used for all of recorded history to strengthen group bonds, so how do rituals bring us closer, why are rituals so commonly associated with religion, and what can you do to develop your own rituals to bring you and your family and friends closer together? What to Listen For Why is it so important to encourage curiosity in children and what can you do to impart a sense of curiosity in your kids? Why is a tolerance for ambiguity difficult but crucial in the scientific search for knowledge and understanding of the world around us? What was it like growing up as the child of Carl Sagan and Ann Druyan? How do we use rituals to deal with change and how can you use rituals to minimize the suffering you will experience throughout life? What should you say to someone who has just lost a loved one and doesn’t necessarily hold religious beliefs about an afterlife? What rituals can we use to help us cope with painful events in life and why can not having a ritual amplify the

Charisma is not something you are born with, so what can you do to develop your own charisma, what does it even mean to have charisma, and what does the science say about this seemingly abstract human quality? What to Listen For What is charisma and why is it important? What are the three factors that go into being charismatic and what can you do to become more charismatic? Are you born with charisma or is it something you can teach and learn? Why are we drawn to charismatic individuals? How can you stay true to yourself and be charismatic if you don’t feel you’re a charismatic person? How do presence, enthusiasm, and confidence play a role in your natural charisma? What questions can you ask yourself to know exactly what to work on to become more charismatic? Why is active listening integral to being charismatic, and what can you do to improve your ability to listen? Why are people drawn more toward optimists than pessimists, and how can you become more optimistic? Why does it make you more charis

Authenticity is a powerful concept because many of us are scared of what other people might think of us if we were to be as weird as we know we are all the time, and consequently many of us hide the fun and interesting bits that make us who we are - so why do we care, why should we stop putting so much emphasis on what we think others want us to be, and what can you do when every social platform is signaling to you that the only parts worth living are the ones that get the most likes? What to Listen For What does it mean to be a disruptive innovator? How do you educate people without being preachy? What can you do to build up a tolerance for rejection so you don’t miss out on countless opportunities just because you walked away at “no”? If you have perfectionist tendencies, what can you do to make sure it doesn’t stop you from completing something or just moving on without it? What can you do if you feel like you are trying to fit yourself into a box that society wants for you rather than what YOU want

Company culture might conjure silly images of bag chairs and free lunch to some, but company culture is much more than hip amenities and it can break an organization if it’s dysfunctional - so what is a dysfunctional company culture, how do you risk losing your best talent unless you improve it, and is any company too big or too old to change its ways? What to Listen For What two areas of business do you need in order to successfully run a business? What are the 5 dysfunctions of management and what can you do to overcome them to build a world-class company culture people want to work with? Why is a willingness to be vulnerable and admit when you don’t know something important to developing a healthy company culture? Is conflict avoidance a good or bad thing in the workplace, and how should you approach disagreements and potential arguments? What does it mean to be trustworthy in a business environment and how can you identify someone who isn’t trustworthy before their failure becomes your failure? Wh