Mom And Dad Are Fighting | Slate's Parenting Show

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Dan weigh in on whether you are a jerk for uninviting a family from your pod’s holiday plans. Should you follow invitation etiquette during a pandemic? Then they debate how to handle a parent giving a kid a book that might be too mature. Is it too late to take the book back? Or should you prepare to explain the mature content?  In Slate Plus: The hosts reveal the worst gifts they’ve ever given and received. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Dan recommends A Map to the Sun by Sloane Leong. Elizabeth recommends USPS Operation Santa.  Jamilah recommends Black Kids Adventures and Black Adventure Crew, which you should also follow on Instagram.  Games Galore:  Sommify Pandemic Root Rummikub The Floor is Lava  Yogarrr! Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about wh

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question about a kid who was told Santa wasn’t real. Now she is basing her continued belief on whether or not she gets a horse for Christmas. They also answer a question from a sister who is worried about her younger brother’s slacking in school.  In Slate Plus: How are Santas adapting? Is it time to retire the tradition of sitting on Santa’s lap? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends Eczema Honey products. Elizabeth recommends Mail Order Mystery. Dan recommends “Christmas Wrapping” by the Waitresses and “Christmas on Riverside Drive” by August Darnell.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Tune in to The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show hosted by Jamilah. Catch i

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth gather around the virtual Thanksgiving table to share the major and minor things that got them through this wild year. They also answer a listener question from a mom nervous about changes to her kids’ education as they move across the country.  In Slate Plus: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth duke it out over the best and worst Thanksgiving foods. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends using Native-Land.ca to learn about Indigenous lands. If you’d like to learn about land you are on, you can also text your city and state *City, state” 1-907-312-5085 or to LandAcknowledgement on Facebook Messenger. Elizabeth also recommends following sitbymyfire on Instagram. She has a wonderful list of picture books for Native American Heritage Month.  Jamilah recommends peanut butter cups from Emerald Sky Edibles, if you are in a location where cannabis is legal.

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah debate how to have conversations with kids about body types. How do you model a healthy body image with your child? They also give advice on what to do when your child has a deep emotional attachment to a fruit. This might be a good time to talk about the life cycle of produce.  In Slate Plus: Elizabeth and Jamilah talk about two new released studies showing how the pandemic is making mothers more frustrated with their partners and kids. They even talk about some of the challenges they’ve faced while trying to balance working from home and taking care of their children. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends getting your car wrapped at an auto body shop. Elizabeth recommends Fun-Schooling Journals from Thinking Tree Books. Bonus Links: There were two new studies released showing how the pandemic is making mothers more frustrated with their kids and pa

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Dan debate when it’s appropriate to celebrate a sibling’s pregnancy, especially if the road to conception has been tough. How can you delineate between excitement and celebration so the mom-to-be feels supported without feeling pressure to share the news with others, if that’s not something she’s comfortable with at this stage? They also advise a family who has realized—they don’t actually know how to have fun as a unit. It turns out, the key to family fun is that someone is probably always not thrilled. But, sometimes, you just gotta suck it up.  In Slate Plus: The hosts compete over who has allowed their kid to see the worst TV show. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Dan recommends Flamer by Mike Curato. Elizabeth recommends Flipbelt’s running pants.  Jamilah recommends shopping for the holidays at Kido. Bonus Links: The Rise and Fall of Baby Einstein by Rut

On this week’s episode: With votes still being tallied, Dan and Jamilah are joined by Slate’s Dahlia Lithwick to debrief about the election and figure out how to talk about what’s going on with kids. They’ll answer a question from a parent who asks: How can you tell your kids it’s going to be OK if you’re just not sure that it will? They’ll also answer a question from a mom who is grappling with how much screentime is too much for her kids who are glued to The Simpsons.  In Slate Plus: Dealing with a politically divided country is one thing. But what should you do when you and your children are on the opposite ends of the political spectrum? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Dahlia recommends helping your kids have relationships with adults who aren’t you, which is especially important during the pandemic.  Jamilah recommends purchasing pet insurance.  Dan recommends the game Tokaido.  Join us on Facebook and

On this week’s episode: Since Halloween festivities have been curbed by COVID-19, Elizabeth, Jamilah and Isaac Butler have some ideas on how to celebrate safely. They answer a question about a kid who dresses up for Halloween but wants nothing to do with it this year. Then they answer a question about how to handle all the candy, especially this year when Trick-or-Treating is a safety risk. In Slate Plus: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Isaac reminisce over their favorite costumes and debate which costumes they’d like to see in stores this year. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends Open Mike Eagle’s new album: Anime, Trauma + Divorce.  Isaac recommends Heidi Schreck’s What the Constitution Means to Me. Elizabeth recommends weighted blankets, which are especially helpful for anxiety.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth interview Dr. Joseph Allen from Harvard’s T.H. Chan School of Public Health who argues that remote school is failing our kids. Allen explains why virtual dropout is so concerning, especially to low income and minority students. They also discuss leadership failures and what infrastructure schools need to make sure they are safe for students, teachers and staff.  Following the interview, they answer a wild listener question about body shaming, blackmail, and ostracization.   In Slate Plus: How do you celebrate a kid’s birthday that’s constantly eclipsed by a holiday? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends trying embroidery with your kids. Specifically the kits from Oh Sew Bootiful.  Jamilah recommends Dole Whip. Since you probably won’t be at Disney any time soon, you may as well make it yourself.  Dan recommends a tactic if your kids aren’t

On this week’s episode: Jamilah Lemieux checks in with four of Slate’s Ask a Teacher columnists to see how this very unusual school year is going. Brandon Hersey, Cassy Sarnell, Matthew Dicks, and Amy Scott talk about ways their teaching styles have changed, some unexpected positive outcomes, and ways parents can help teachers help their kids. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Catch Jamilah’s Slate Live show The Kids Are Asleep every Thursday at 7 p.m. PT/10 p.m. ET. Stream it on Slate’s Facebook page or YouTube channel.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Thank you to Brandon Hersey, Cassy Sarnell, Matthew Dicks, and Amy Scott for their insight.  Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and June Thomas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth taped a live version of the show. If you want to watch the recording of the livestream, you can catch it on Slate’s Facebook and YouTube channel. It was super fun! They answered audience questions live and even had a super special guest, Shasha Léonard, to read the questions. And, as always, they shared triumphs and fails as well as recommendations.  In Slate Plus: They talked with Slate’s Greg Lavallee about his wonderful piece: Why I’m Teaching My Kids That Computers Are Dumb Machines. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends the Aerobie Flying Disk.  Jamilah recommends The Meaning of Mariah Carey by Mariah Carey and Michaela Angela Davis.  Dan recommends supporting student journalism and the film What the Constitution Means to Me.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Faceboo

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah and Dan are joined by two-time Olympic gold medalist and FIFA World Cup champion, Abby Wambach. She has some advice for raising a leader, on and off the field. She also talks about inspiring the next generation of leaders in her new book, Wolfpack (Young Readers Edition).   Then Elizabeth, Jamilah and Dan debate how to deal with parents who shout at their kids from the sidelines.   In Slate Plus: We have a bonus round of classic sports ‘Triumphs and Fails.’ Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Dan recommends Cribbage, a game with the perfect combo of skill and luck.  Jamilah recommends Schitt's Creek. If you need a place to start watching. Slate’s Marissa Martinelli has you covered. Read her Gateway Episodes piece here.   Elizabeth recommends the Squatchi Children's Shoe Sizer.  Additional Recommendations: Catch our LIVE Mom and Dad are Fighting show Wednesday, Oct.

On this week’s episode: Dan, Elizabeth, and guest host Maya Feller answer a question about balancing extracurriculars with middle-school homework. And they advice a parent who desperately wants to tell the kids next door to get off her lawn.  In Slate Plus: Looking for fun, family-friendly fall recipes and activities? We’ve got ideas! And if you’re an autumn grouch, we also have some anti-fall propaganda from a host who will enthusiastically commiserate with you. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends Can You Hear the Trees Talking? Discovering the Hidden Life of the Forest by Peter Wohlleben. Maya recommends Epic, a digital library for kids where they can read e-books and have stories read to them. Dan recommends the documentary Dick Johnson is Dead on Netflix. Additional Recommendations: Catch our LIVE Mom and Dad are Fighting show Wednesday, Oct. 14 at 8:00 p.m. ET.  The Kids Are Asleep,

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Rebecca answer a question about a mother who “feels like less of a parent” now that she shares 50/50 custody of her daughter, post separation. They also answer a question about how to teach a “threenager” to be polite.  In Slate Plus: We reflect on Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s passing. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends actually using your fancy dishes.  Rebecca recommends making the switch to cloth napkins. Bonus recommendation for adults: watch Borgen.  Jamilah recommends Celestial Seasonings’ Lemon Lavender Lane tea.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.  Ruth Bader Ginsburg Has Died at 87 by Mark Joseph Stern Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Champion Of Gender Equality, Dies At 87 by Nina Totenberg Ruth Bader Ginsburg C

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question about a grandmother, who struggles with alcoholism, asking to take her grandkid on an overnight roadtrip. We also have a follow-up question about making friends with other parents during the pandemic.  In Slate Plus: We talk about the increase in mom shaming, online and among friends, during the pandemic. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends Alphablocks, a Netflix show for younger kids. Jamilah recommends finding unique wallpaper and decor from Society6 and Spoonflower.  Dan recommends Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, a Netflix show that may be appropriate for teens.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.  Mom Shaming’s Running Rampant During the Pandemic by Rosemary Counter.  Mom and Dad Are Fighting: W

On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Dan answer a question about a kindergartener getting fed up with attending school via screen. They also answer a question from a mom worried that her little one said he wanted to kill her.  In Slate Plus: We reminisce on the totally cute, not annoying, cartoons our kids loved. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Dan recommends the Asterix comic series.  Jamilah recommends watching P-Valley after your kids go to bed.  Elizabeth recommends Write and Draw Your Own Comics for car entertainment perfect for 8 year olds.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.  The Rabbit Listened by Cori Doerrfeld.  The Phineas and Ferb Movie Applies the Matur-inator by Dan Kois. Related, Emily Nussbaum’s twitter thread about Candace Against the Universe. 

On this week’s bonus episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by registered dietitian, Maya Feller, to discuss lunches for in-person and at-home learners. How can parents make sure their kids are eating nutritious meals that still taste good? What can parents do about kids that graze in the kitchen all day? And when should they start packing their own lunch?  Follow Maya Fuller on Instagram or her website.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question from a parent adjusting to her young son wanting to wear girls clothing. They also answer a question about a mom who just needs some space from her preteen who glommed on to her during quarantine.  In Slate Plus: We settle whether or not it’s ridiculous to share astrology with your kids. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends the magnetic tangrams set from Chuckle & Roar.  Jamilah recommends Moesha and the Brandy vs Monica Verzuz Battle.  Dan recommends watching Lady Bird with your teen.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.  My Son Loves My Little Pony. At 7, He Already Knows That’s Not OK. by Sean Williams.  Ackerman Institute for the Family What’s Your Sign, Baby? by Heather Schwedel.  Jo

On this week’s bonus episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah are joined by Emily Bazelon to discuss bullying. A lot of interactions are classified as bullying, but what instances should actually be classified as bullying? Can parents prevent bullying? When should parents step in? How should children respond if bullying occurs?  Mentioned on the show: Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying and Rediscovering the Power of Character and Empathy by Emily Bazelon.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Carvell answer a question from a parent trying to support their college-age daughter who decided to postpone her education for a year. They also answer a follow-up question about how to approach conversations about race with a 5 year old after an initial attempt didn’t go so well.  In Slate Plus: Jamilah and Carvell talk about teachers that impacted their lives, for better or for worse. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends The Bug Bite Thing.  Carvell recommends Euphoria for those comfortable viewing mature content.  Jamilah recommends Freedom Gluten Free Doughnuts.  Additional Recommendations: The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.  Picture the Dream: The Story of the Civil Rights Movement Through Children’s Books.  Heritage Packs: Multicult

On this week’s bonus episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah discuss how to approach homework in a way that kids can complete their work without it becoming an ongoing chore for the entire family. They also have tips on what parents should do if they are routinely becoming overwhelmed by the amount of homework their kids are receiving.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices