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Host Timothy Regan uses the power, language and empathy of NVC to create a sweet public space for listeners to touch and express the essence of what matters to them right now. When we check in with our feelings and understand our needs, we return to our power and our creativity and our resilience. Timothy extends his kindness so that callers feel heard and seen for who they are. He expresses understanding for their feelings and needs and shares teaching moments as well in this tender and beautiful space for the human heart. The post Space and Time for Sweet Mourning and Celebration appeared first on KPFA.

Host Nancy Kahn and guest, Dr. Meg Jordan, a global medicine hunter and chair of the M.A. program in Integrative Health Studies at California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS) discuss the benefits of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Across Differences in Health and Wellness. Dr. Jordan is a world-traveled medical anthropologist, holistic RN, educator and journalist specializing in integrative health and behavioral medicine. Dr. Jordan realizes that good medicine is the one that works for the person, no matter if it’s alternative, complementary or conventional. Dr. Jordan incorporates the practices of NVC Across Differences into the Health and Wellness Coaching Programs at CIIS, recognizing that the healing process requires the ability to transform judgments and self-judgments into universal human needs/core values. Dr. Jordan’s work as a behavioral medicine specialist helps people adjust their immediate environments as well as their inner psycho-emotional terrain to make lasting, positive changes. Listeners

Often, to contribute in the world in the way we want, we must unburden ourselves from the weight of regret and shame over things we have done to harm others and the pain and resulting reactivity that comes when others have hurt us. Host Marlena Willis shares and explores ways that nonviolent communication and meditation practices can support us in making amends to others and in healing from the harm others have done to us. The post Cleaning the Slate appeared first on KPFA.

How to meet your Impact with dignity and healing: Using a live and intense example with guest Warren Hooley, indigenous activist, educator, and Nonviolent Communication trainer from British Columbia, we offer you a radical and healing way to respond if you are faced with anger and blame because something you said or did stimulated pain in someone or a whole group of people. Especially if you care about your impact, and your intention was not to harm anyone. This is tough territory, and we want to share some inspiring insights with you. Timothy Regan hosts collaboratively with Mr. Hooley. Warren Hooley is a half-Okanagan-Indigenous, half-Caucasian man from the Syilx (Okanagan) Territory in Penticton, British Columbia. For the past 5 years, Warren has passionately chosen a path of intensive facilitation training, delivering workshops across BC and performing as an Inspirational Hip Hop Rapper/Beatboxer. Today, currently living in Vancouver, Warren reflects on ‘why’ he has chosen to do youth empowerment work. He

Host Nancy Kahn talks with guest Jair Valley, a dynamic 21-year-old African American artist and full-time professional​. Jair talks about ​a​ recent experience of implicit racial bias in his workplace and the process he is actively engaged in to reclaim his dearly held values for wholeness and compassion. Starbucks recently shared materials with the public on the nationwide training they provided to all employees and defined Implicit Bias as the automatic association of stereotypes or attitudes with particular social groups, and they referenced the source Banaji & Greenwald, 2013. Patricia Devine, a psychology professor and director of the Prejudice Lab said, “ There are a lot of people who are very sincere in their renunciation of prejudice, yet they are vulnerable to habits of mind. Intentions aren’t good enough.”  (Nordell, “Is This How Discrimination Ends”, atlanticmonthly.com)​. A sample of Jair’s art: his self-portrait This show ​offers insights and practices into how to recover from the impact of r

When we are unable to imagine solutions that can meet the needs of more people (and other beings), it can be due to a poverty of imagination. Poetry can spark our imagination. It can feed us with the inspiration in our journeys to awaken and in our efforts to make the world a place with more care for all. Host Marlena Willis talks with and shares poetry with Barry Spector, a member of Rumi’s Caravan. Barry Spector writes about American history and politics from the perspectives of myth, archetypal psychology and indigenous wisdom. He is the author of Madness At The Gates of The City: The Myth of American Innocence. He’s been involved with the mythopoetic men’s movement for 25 years. He is also a member of Rumi’s Caravan which performs in Oakland on July 14  as a benefit for the Middle East Children’s Alliance.   Rumi’s Caravan offers live, recited poetry and music performed in the ecstatic tradition, celebrating the art of Rumi, Hafiz, and other mystic poets. The post From Imagination to Inspiration: An Inter

Are you holding the conversations you want to have in your intimate relationships? Do you have transparent dialogues that support connection, closeness, and clarity about the agreements you hold within these core relationships, or do you find yourself avoiding conversations about important issues out of fear of conflict? Are you satisfied with the agreements you have within your relationships? If you are finding it hard to talk with your partner, and rarely feel connected or experience your conversations as easy, host Nancy Kahn can help you learn new communication skills. Nancy shares proven strategies for holding important conversations and sheds light on the common rabbit holes people end up in because they lack essential communication skills to talk about their needs and make clear, direct requests of one another. Nancy takes live calls, inviting callers to share their relationship issues and receive coaching or input. Listeners are invited to call in​ to the show at 7:30 pm (1-800-958-9008) to ask focuse

Are you feeling compelled to make some calls to your elected representatives? Are you wondering how to best “state your case” so that your language and passion combine to make a really effective statement? Host Timothy Regan shares how to make democracy work in 30 seconds of honesty, how to make your case in a way that is more likely to be heard. Using the principles of nonviolent communication, Timothy gives you steps to follow to help you distill what you care about into some meaningful, powerful words, to make a case for what you care about. Timothy helps callers work on stating their case, and receives listener suggestions for effectiveness and impact. The post How to Make a Positive Effective Request of Your Elected Representative appeared first on KPFA.

Host Marlena Willis interviews Ravi Chandra, M.D., psychiatrist, Buddhist and author of the book Facebuddha, Transcendence in the Age of Social Networks, which is the winner of the 2017 Nautilus Silver Award for Religion/Spirituality of Eastern Thought. Ravi Chandra values conversation, relationship and their ultimate goals: love and the feeling of society. He thinks social media puts us in danger. He also thinks mindfulness can help us in navigating social media. Ravi Chandra, M.D., is a psychiatrist and writer in San Francisco.  He is a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association.  Facebuddha is his nonfiction debut.  He blogs regularly for Psychology Today (The Pacific Heart) and for the Center for Asian American Media (Memoirs of a Superfan). His ebook on Asian American Anger is available for free download. He was published in the award-winning anthology of South Asian American poetry, Indivisible, and his first book of poetry, a fox peeks out, won Honorable Mention at the San Francisco B

Host Nancy Kahn interviews guest Randi Bryant, a corporate diversity trainer and author, about proven communication and diversity strategies she has found effective in the workplace. They examine how the principles of Nonviolent Communication Across Differences align or contrast with the strategies Randi has found effective in her corporate programs. In 2001, Randi founded and still operates a corporate training company which allows her to travel the country educating companies, executives and employees on topics including anti-discrimination, communication in a diverse work environment, and how to capitalize on a diverse workforce. Listeners are invited to call in​ to the show at 7:30 pm (1-800-958-9008) to ask focused questions about experiences across differences of race, gender and culture at work that you find challenging, and receive coaching, perspective and empathy from Randi and Nancy. About Randi Bryant   Over the past 14 years as president of her company, Randi has grown it from a small st

Host Nancy Kahn interviews guest Randi Bryant, a corporate diversity trainer and author, about proven communication and diversity strategies she has found effective in the workplace. They examine how the principles of Nonviolent Communication Across Differences align or contrast with the strategies Randi has found effective in her corporate programs. In 2001, Randi founded and still operates a corporate training company which allows her to travel the country educating companies, executives and employees on topics including anti-discrimination, communication in a diverse work environment, and how to capitalize on a diverse workforce. Listeners are invited to call in​ to the show at 7:30 pm (1-800-958-9008) to ask focused questions about experiences across differences of race, gender and culture at work that you find challenging, and receive coaching, perspective and empathy from Randi and Nancy. About Randi Bryant   Over the past 14 years as president of her company, Randi has grown it from a small st

Did you know that there are men who meet regularly to practice the art of deep compassionate presence with one another? Host Timothy Regan welcomes five men of a Berkeley NVC practice group. They show you what it’s like when men get together and extend compassionate understanding toward one another. They express the value of empathy in their lives and being there for one another. The men share about the benefits of NVC in their lives and take you with them as they together practice compassionate listening, understanding and honesty live on air. The post Men Practicing Empathy and Nonviolent Communication appeared first on KPFA.

Host Marlena Willis talks with Jill Nagle, a widely published author on personal growth, parenting, and social issues. Jill founded Wisdom of the Body: Beyond Talk Therapy to provide multidimensional counseling that includes the possibility of intimate, nonsexual restorative touch. She works with individuals, couples, communities and groups who want to get past the what’s tripping them up, to the deeper connection, flow, and ease that’s always underneath. She also provides mediation and training to individuals, couples, and groups, including a nine-month Immersion each October.   The post Our Bodies are Wise: A Conversation with Jill Nagle appeared first on KPFA.

What is implicit bias? How do we become aware of implicit bias, and how does implicit bias unconsciously affect our behaviors and attitudes towards other people? Recently in the news, there have been two trending stories across the country reporting on the impact of implicit bias resulting in law enforcement being called by employees of public businesses. The employees called the police to have male patrons of color removed from the premises, believing they had not acted lawfully, but who in fact, had not broken the law or the policies of the respective establishments. As people, we harbor implicit bias without being aware it is occurring. When people holding positions of power are unaware of their own active implicit bias, their thinking and behavior may result in discrimination, racism, prejudice, and/or even cause in physical harm. Host Nancy Kahn talks with Lisa Dettmer, co-producer of Talk-it-Out Radio, about how the tools of Nonviolent Communication can first, empower people to hold self-compassion if/

Be delightfully inspired, play some peacemaking games and listen to some positive music live from the KPFA studios – with the leaders and kids of the Mosaic Project from Oakland, California. Timothy Regan hosts Khemnes Fisher and Emily Abad with young students and musicians from Mosaic. Experience some powerful and compassionate “gametivities” that have helped over 39,000 children and 9,000 adults since 2001 build their capacity and skills in empathy and conflict resolution, so they can help create the diverse, inclusive, and peaceful communities that they envision, and that we envision! [Rebroadcast] The post Conflict Resolution can be Fun?! appeared first on KPFA.

In order to be happy and productive in making the world a better place, we need to be free of the ways we avoid and numb out using alcohol, drugs and other behaviors. Many have been helped by the 12-step programs but many do not resonate with these God-centered programs. Host Marlena Willis talks with Vimilasara (Valerie) Mason-John, co-author of the award-winning book Eight Step Recovery – Using the Buddha’s Teachings to Overcome Addiction, and Shahara Godfrey, core teacher at the East Bay Meditation Center, who has initiated events there for people in addiction recovery center programs. Vimalasara Mason-John (Valerie) is president of the Buddhist Recovery Network and cofounder of a secular mindfulness program for addiction. She is also the author of the new revised edition of Detox Your Heart – Meditations For Emotional Trauma. She is a leading African Canadian voice in the field of Mindfulness for Emotional Trauma and Addiction. Shahara Godfrey is a core teacher at the East Bay Meditation Center who has in

Nancy Kahn hosts a discussion between guests Leo Mercer, a self-described “Rapitivist,” and Savander Parker, a higher education professional, who hold divergent perspectives on Hip Hop.  Hear how it is possible to dialogue across differences through the practice of Nonviolent Communication, despite holding conflicting perspectives. How can we talk about issues we are passionate about when the people we are talking with hold perspectives that are radically different than our own? So often, we fall into the trap of wanting to be right, or we become so focused on proving our case, we miss the opportunity to hear the other person fully, typically end up not feeling heard, and find ourselves in a verbal battle. Nancy facilitates a live dialogue and supports both guests in slowing down to integrate and practice Nonviolent Communication. Learn how to remove the mask of defending one’s position and choose to intentionally connect with someone who does not agree with your perspective. The communication skills that a

Host Timothy Regan explored the nature of empathic dialogue and shares examples of where this is happening–from a first-of-its-kind event in Berkeley with political competitors to our own personal relationships. Edwin Rutsch of the Center for Building a Culture of Empathy is a special guest for the first half-hour. The post Good News! Where Empathy is Happening Locally appeared first on KPFA.

What is your workplace culture like? In your place of employment, how often do you experience colleagues, supervisors and upper management responding to you and others with judgment-free active listening (empathic presence)? A leading corporation in Silicon Valley shared research findings that presented empathy as the single most important workplace practice for effective teams. Work-based teams that operationalize empathy as a workplace tool, and prioritize connection between members of the team, are proven to be the most successful. Host Nancy Kahn offers insights into the stigma commonly associated with prioritizing empathy in the workplace as a core practice and explores workplace communication challenges and scenarios. Practice along with Nancy to transform habitual conversational responses into empathic responses. Call in for coaching on situations at work in which you would like help in learning how to offer yourself and others empathic presence. The post Creating a Culture of Empathy in the Workpl

Host Marlena Willis talks with E.N. Hill, who describes themselves as a black, gay, gender non-binary, Christ-loving non-Christian. They practice a family of religious diversity: God as father, the earth and earth-based practices as mother, Buddhism as lover, and African spiritual practices as grandparents. From a military background, now called to be a minister, they see their role as modeling unapologetic loving of themselves.   E.N. (pronounced as ee-ahn) is a second-year Masters of Divinity student focusing on Buddhism & Unitarian Universalist Ministry at Starr King School for the Ministry in Berkeley, CA. They are also working as the Founding Director and Spiritual Care Advisor of SPARK Collective Living, a housing commune based in East Oakland. The post Full Acceptance of Self – A Conversation with E.N. Hill appeared first on KPFA.