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This edition of Talk It Out Radio is for you if you have power and influence in your life, and if you care about your impact on other people. We all have power – to speak, to act, to create, and to destroy. And yet, some of us have more freedom than others to exercise our power to take care of ourselves and our loved ones. This happens for many reasons. Guest and Certified Nonviolent Communication Trainer and Ambassador Bob Wentworth and Host Timothy Regan openly explore the realities and challenges that power and privilege create in relationships, families, work places, and beyond. Our goal is to help reduce the suffering that comes from injustice when power and privilege differences are not addressed. We present specific principles from the practice of Nonviolent Communication that bring awareness, kindness, and useful action for all human relationships where power and privilege differences are present.  Listeners are invited to call in and help us explore this challenging terrain. Bob Wentworth played a le

In a world where we can experience deep joy, wrenching grief, and mourning that can feel exhausting, how do we actually tend to our grief and mourning? Host Nancy Kahn offers practices that support us in recognizing grief and mourning. Why do we often hear people tell us not to feel sad, to be strong and not to wallow in our grief? Nancy guides us in examining the barriers that keep us from embracing the critical roles of mourning and grief work in our lives. If you are curious about the roles of grief and mourning in social justice work, this segment offers key insights and perspectives. The post Embracing Grief and Mourning appeared first on KPFA.

This edition of Talk It Out Radio is Part 2 of “Repairing Relationships when you Care.” Part 1 (“How to Forgive for Real”) aired on Sept. 24, 2017, and addressed how to dissolve the enemy images we carry around of other people. You can hear that episode in our archives, or on iTunes. This show, Making Authentic Amends, is about how to apologize and ask for forgiveness when an action or words of mine have had a painful impact on another person, and I care about this person and my relationship with them. Host Timothy Regan, Certified Nonviolent Communication Trainer, explains and illustrates the principles of making amends with a specific step-by-step process. He is joined by Talk It Out Team member Marlena Willis. Your calls are welcome. The post How to Make Authentic Amends appeared first on KPFA.

How can we cease being caught in shame and awaken self-love within us so that we can be both happy and more effective in our lives and our work for social justice? Host Marlena Willis is in dialogue with Nonviolent Communications teacher and coach, Marina Smerling, about shifting from shame and blame to love and self-acceptance. Marina will also share about how Nonviolent Communication can support us in being a white ally to people of color. Marina Smerling is a former attorney turned life and relationship coach for women, and a trainer with Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (BayNVC). Marina draws upon her decade of training in NVC, Hakomi mindfulness-based therapy, and nondual spiritual practice to support women’s evolution through the composting of shame into radical self-love. A co-founder of Talk It Out Radio, she is a recent transplant to Gainesville, FL, from Berkeley, CA, and is honored to return to KPFA’s studio to share about her work with NVC and its implications for metabolizing shame, being with u

Host Nancy Kahn discussed practices of self compassion and exploring needs behind the actions of others we may view as “the enemy.” This show highlights the value in taking empowered action from a place of connection to our deepest values, and not from the thoughts stimulated by enemy images. This show can support listeners in moving beyond enemy images that block our ability to experience inner freedom and creativity to move into empowered compassionate action. This edition of Talk It Out Radio offers insights and practice with examples from the host and live callers. Host Nancy Kahn is live on air with listener calls and her commitment to support callers in learning practices and transforming enemy images. The post Compassionate Action: Working Through Enemy Images in Today’s World appeared first on KPFA.

Host Timothy Regan explores authentic Forgiveness. Do you have enemies in your life? How does that feel to you? If you are like most people, you might say it’s uncomfortable. Do you know anyone who is having this experience and is tired of it and might want a way out? Might that person be you? It turns out that Forgiveness comes from deep understanding of your own humanity AND your enemy’s humanity as well. We offer hope in these troubled times as we explore a map to authentic Forgiveness that is built on understanding and empathy. We move beyond just saying we forgive someone to actually experiencing the relief and freedom that forgiveness offers us. Hear stories of forgiveness, and specific steps to take. You are invited to practice along with us for a relationship in your own life. “Hatred never ceases by hatred, but by love alone is healed.  This is the ancient and eternal law.” – “The Practice of Forgiveness” by Jack Kornfield The post How to Forgive for Real appeared first on KPFA.

In Nonviolent Communication classes, sometimes participants think the class is going to be about communicating with others. But what people often get most out of the class is how to communicate with themselves and how to speak more kindly to themselves. Host Marlena Willis plays excerpts from Buddhist teacher Tara Brach’s CD, Radical Self-Acceptance, while weaving Tara’s insight and wisdom on working with shame with Marlena’s own experience healing from trauma using meditation and Nonviolent Communication. (The CD is a pledge drive premium – PLEASE SUPPORT TALK IT OUT RADIO AND KPFA with your pledge!) Tara Brach, PhD Is the founder and senior teacher of Insight Meditation Community of Washington, DC. She is a practicing clinical psychologist, a lay Buddhist priest, and author of the books In the Shadow of the Buddha and Radical Acceptance. The post Love Yourself No Matter What appeared first on KPFA.

On Talk It Out Radio, our intention is to provide everyone with tools and practices that work to increase compassion and kindness in the world. We know that your relationship with yourself may be the most important relationship in which to practice these things. It turns out that each of us has ongoing measurable brain activity that happens between other tasks, that is primarily concerned with relating to ourselves. This is called “the default network.” It’s how we talk to, and listen to, and honor ourselves – or not. For some people, this “default network” can be cruel, and can be a source of ongoing pain that we barely notice day to day. Sarah Peyton, international teacher and healer in the field of Interpersonal Neurobiology, and Certified Nonviolent Communication trainer, has collected her tried and true healing practices for our relationship with ourselves in a new book: Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations and Exercises to Engage Your Brain’s Capacity for Healing. Your Resonant Self synthesizes the la

Nancy Kahn hosts a show on communication practices that support close relationships: family, partners and friends. Why do people find it so difficult to communicate with the people they have the closest connections with? Dr. Marshall Rosenberg said we lose all of our skill with the people we are closest with when we get triggered. What communication challenges and interpersonal dynamics are people experiencing in close relationships? How can people move beyond stuckness and the cycle of participating in ways that leave them feeling repeatedly disconnected and disappointed? What practices can reconnect people back to power in their world and provide liberation from responding out of habit, instead of by choice? Nancy offers insights and practice with several examples. She is live on air with listener calls and excitement to hold empathic presence and hear what people are going through. She gives live coaching on the air for your relationships. The post Communicating Within Our Closest Relationships: Building E

Martin Luther King Jr. taught us to attack forces of evil, not persons doing evil. His movement encouraged us to bring our indignation and confrontation to the ideas, the beliefs, the conditions, and the structures of injustice or violence, but to bring our compassion to the people caught in playing out these beliefs and structures. Arno Michaelis, an ex white power movement organizer, says that his way out of hatred did not come from being screamed at or being told that he was wrong, but through compassion from the people he claimed to hate:  “They treated me with kindness when I least deserved it, but when I most needed it.” Responding with compassion and integrity is difficult when we are faced with violent thoughts and intense emotion. We need training and practice to embody the values of kindness and compassion in these moments. This edition of Talk It Out Radio offers guidance and practice with several examples. Host Timothy Regan is live on air with listener calls and willingness to practice the skills

Hosts Timothy Regan and Nancy Kahn speak to the upset, fear and helplessness that many people are experiencing as a result of what we hear reported on the discussions between the leadership of the United States and North Korea. They offer their vision of what restorative dialogue sounds like and contributes to these discussions and to the full humanity of all of us. The post At the Table with the US and North Korea appeared first on KPFA.

It has been said that legal mediation is a success if everyone is unhappy with the outcome—that it is fair, because everyone has had to compromise. Bringing Nonviolent Communication to the mediation process contributes to the possibility that all parties involved can be happy with the results because it facilitates connection and care between the parties involved. Host Marlena Willis interviews Nonviolent Communication teacher and mediator Lisa Montana on how we can formally or informally resolve conflicts using Nonviolent Communication. Lisa Montana came to conflict resolution from the corporate world, where she witnessed frequent disputes, most of them handled in ways that nobody liked. Working with collaborative communication, she found a model in which everyone’s needs matter and against all odds, has seen wildly antagonistic foes find common ground. Lisa began teaching Nonviolent Communication in 2007, and in 2008 she joined the teaching team for BayNVC’s year-long mediation program. Since 2013, she’s b

Connection is a human need, and when connection is experienced between people, people are more likely to choose to contribute to one another’s needs. Host Nancy Kahn, a Nonviolent Communication facilitator who specializes in working across differences such as race, gender, and class, explores the power of connection. She offers insights and tools that support connection between people in everyday situations and across differences. The post The Power of Connection appeared first on KPFA.

Gratitude – the state of celebration about the fulfillment of life. It is medicine and fuel for living. It is a physical sensation, a feeling, and a way of thinking that strengthens us. But how do we actually DO gratitude? In this episode of Talk It Out Radio, we look deeply and clearly at some detailed steps we can take to grow gratefulness and appreciation in ourselves and our lives right now. Host Timothy Regan, with Nonviolent Communication practitioners Kat Nadel and Liz Hymans, call you to join us to find our own way to authentic gratitude. The post The Essence of Gratitude appeared first on KPFA.

Hosts Timothy Regan and Nancy Kahn of the 14th Annual New York Intensive in NVC get personal and share stories from colleagues that show the practice and possibility of human presence, especially when it’s challenging in the moment. They focus on what we each can do within the sphere of our own power and influence to help grow a culture of collaboration and understanding. The post Stories from the Frontier of Day-to-Day Compassion and Empathy appeared first on KPFA.

Most people, when heard with empathy, want more of it. What if the value of empathy permeated our culture? This is the vision that guest, Edwin Rutsch, brings to us. Host Marlena Willis dialogues with him about his vision for how to create a world where the value of empathy permeates all our institutions. Edwin Rutsch is the founding director of the Center for Building a Culture of Empathy and the International Empathy Trainers Association. The center’s website, CultureOfEmpathy.com, is the internet’s most comprehensive portal for empathy-related material, including interviews with over 300 experts on the topic. He is a world traveler, a “seeker,” a documentary filmmaker and has worked in the computer technology field. In his travels, he has interacted with a wide variety of cultures and peoples from all walks of life and learned to see and feel the common humanity of all people on the planet. The post Building a Culture of Empathy appeared first on KPFA.

Right speech or wise speech is one of the precepts in the Buddha’s teaching, and an aspect of the Eightfold Path. For host Marlena Willis, this was the hardest to practice until she learned Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Marlena shares how NVC can support us in speaking honestly, with kindness and depth. The post Making Right Speech Possible appeared first on KPFA.

Have you ever felt the call to community, in your bones? Do you know deep down that you are built to live with a wider family, a neighborhood, a village, where people know eachother and care about eachother? Do you dream of having neighbors who share your investment in the neighborhood and the people there? There are many folks creating Intentional Communities to fulfill these dreams, all around the world, and right here in the Bay Area and Berkeley. Talk It Out Radio host Timothy Regan welcomes local CoHousing neighbors and experts Lloyd Ferris and Betsy Morris to the KPFA studios. Betsy and Lloyd share tips and skills gained from years of living in and studying intentional communities, to help you imagine how to get along on purpose with others who value the safety and richness that comes from healthy relationship with the people living next door. The post Getting Along on Purpose: Berkeley CoHousing Neighbors Share their Wisdom appeared first on KPFA.

Because Nonviolent Communication steps out of the right/wrong paradigm and helps people connect across differences rather than get caught in blame, host Marlena Willis has found it to be one of the most effective tools in raising awareness around racism in all of her years of working on this issue. Marlena interviews Edmundo Norte and Alicia Garcia on how they use Nonviolent Communication in their work to empower others to end racism. Edmundo Norte is the Dean of Intercultural and International Studies Division at De Anza College, and also conducts experiential training in Nonviolent Communication within a frame of transformative social justice work focused on race, class, and gender oppression. Edmundo identifies as Chicano, was born and raised in East Los Angeles, is accustomed to the pronouns he/him/his, and has taught at every level of formal education, from kindergarten in Southeast L.A. to graduate school at Harvard University. He is part of the leadership team at the annual summer residential intensive

Host Nancy Kahn, a facilitator with the 2017 NY Intensive in Nonviolent Communication, provides inspiration and practical tools for navigating moments when one is triggered/reactive. Nancy shares practices that support coming back to choice and reconnecting to power in one’s world in moments when one is least grounded. These tools contribute to creating more peace in the world, peace within and peace with others. The post Owning Our Own Reactions: I Triggered Myself! appeared first on KPFA.