Applied Pastoral Reformed Theology

The End of Anxiety: How I Deal with Intensity, Contempt, and Triggers Without Losing Myself I haven’t felt anxiety in over 670 days. No panic. No self-doubt. No feeling of being overwhelmed by the world’s chaos. And it’s not because life got easier. It’s not because people stopped being difficult. It’s because I found myself. Once anxiety disappeared, I expected smooth sailing, but that’s not how life works. When you become unshakable, the world doesn’t stop shaking—it just stops shaking you. The biggest challenge wasn’t internal anymore. It was external. It was people. The intensity of others. Their emotions. Their judgments. Their contempt. The way they projected their own chaos onto me, expecting me to engage, react, defend, or fix. I used to feel triggered by this—by their anger, their passive-aggression, their false accusations, their attempts to drag me into their storms. But I don’t anymore. Because just as anxiety was never about the external world, neither is being triggered by other peop