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Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. Dilbert's Scott Adams rejoins us to talk about using the body to gauge ideas the brain thinks up during the creative process -- and sort what works from what doesn't. "You don't have anything if you haven't moved somebody's body." -Scott Adams The Cheat Sheet for Thinking with Your Body: When trying to create something, Scott uses his body as a sensor to gauge what works and what doesn't. Scott has a process where he quickly cycles through a series of ideas. A lot of them may be good, but it's the ones that elicit a physical reaction -- usually a chuckle -- that stick. "The x factor of any kind of creative effort -- any kind of art, any kind of product -- is that little thing that just makes you go, 'Ah!' Like you feel it." Scott gives the unboxing of an Apple product as an example. Every little facet of the experience is carefully designe

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Do you know anybody who's a jack of all trades? Gabriel Mizrahi joins us, and he's a jack of one trade -- which may seem underachieving to some, but let's be honest: it's still better than being a jack of no trades. When making cuts to your circle of friends, how do you discern between toxic people who take advantage of your good nature and real friends who are simply in a bad place and need your help? [Related: How to Cut Toxic People out of Your Life] The details of your sexual orientation seem to have a record of stalling promotion once discovered by your higher-ups; how do you stay true to yourself without hurting your career prospects? [Related: Neal Brennan | 3 Mics (Episode 601)] How do you convey warmth to others when you have a resting angry/serious face? How do you deal with the fallout when your business partner turns o

R. Douglas Fields (@RDouglasFields1) is a neuroscientist based in Bethesda, MD and author of Why We Snap, Understanding the Rage Circuit in Your Brain. The Cheat Sheet for Understanding Rage and Why We Snap: What is rage, and what evolutionary purpose does it serve? What makes ordinary people "snap" -- that is, react violently when triggered by rage? Can we control our urge to snap when rage overtakes us? Understand the nine triggers of rage. LIFEMORTS: the mnemonic that helps us identify when rage intrudes so we can get a rational handle on it preemptively. And so much more... If you're a business owner, did you know your payments solution can be an engine for growth? Rethink payments with Braintree. Find out more at braintreepayments.com/forbes! Wearing a stylish timepiece shouldn't break the bank. Art of Charm listeners can find out why MVMT is the fastest-growing watch company in the world for 15% off with free shipping and free returns here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whop

Scott Adams (@ScottAdamsSays) is a trained hypnotist, the creator of Dilbert, and author of the upcoming book Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don't Matter. He also predicted a 2016 presidential win for Trump -- for reasons others didn't see. "Check your facts." -Scott Adams The Cheat Sheet: Did Donald Trump win the election because his persuasion skills include elements of hypnosis? Why is visual persuasion so effective? How do we spot the moment when people are trying to influence us? How is pacing and leading used for persuasion? We revisit the copy machine effect and learn a new one: the McGurk effect. And so much more... Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Free yourself from typing notes, reports, and documents by going with the transcriptionists we trust h

In this Minisode Monday, we address why graduating from school into the workforce isn't a pass to stop learning. The world is constantly changing, and the true professional is a perpetual student. Understand why learning and growth should be seen as a prerequisite for success -- not a distraction. The Cheat Sheet - Learning Is Earning Entering the workforce after graduating with a diploma or certificate or degree is no excuse to stop learning. In fact, the savvy and successful know it's just the beginning. A lawyer legally needs to keep learning just to keep his or her license, but anyone who wants to be good at what they do should follow this example -- whatever their field. In short: if you want to succeed at any level, you're never "done" learning. Learning and growth should be seen as a prerequisite for success -- not a distraction. How many books did you read last year? People at the top of their field could probably rattle off a dozen. But the average for someone who thinks they're done with learning?

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: At what point are you changing too much of yourself for someone else? Is it worth moving to a place you don't like to benefit your career -- at the expense of just about everything else? [Related: Roy Wood Jr. | Father Figure (Episode 593)] If you had to choose just one skill that you would live / deliver well, what would it be and why? Has this podcast had an impact on your life? Please let us know! [Related: Kimberly Seltzer | How to Find a Therapist (Bonus)] How does body language differ in people who grew up under oppressive regimes (e.g., behind the Iron Curtain or North Korea)? How do you know if you're asking too much from someone? Shoutouts to Blueprint and his team at Super Duty Tough Work Podcast and Chelsea the yacht attendant currently navigating the waters of Central and South America! Have any questions, comments, or

The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) triumvirate of Johnny, AJ, and Jordan discuss the importance of narrative building -- taking ownership of the past, being mindful of the present, and setting sights on what we hope to accomplish in the future. To build rapport with others, we have to know our own story first. [Photo by Jonathan Kos-Read] "If you don't understand your narrative, it puts you in peril." -AJ Harbinger The Cheat Sheet: The monomyth, or the hero's journey as identified by mythologist Joseph Campbell, is a pattern that shows up in stories around the world and across cultures -- from The Odyssey to Star Wars. We all have a story -- a narrative -- that informs who we've been, who we are, and who we'll be. But are we making sure we're in control of how we process this narrative? Are you on a hero's journey or a fool's errand? It all depends on who's authoring your narrative. Shouldn't it be you? Following the narrative building exercises discussed in this toolbox episode is a good place to start. Less

Jason Silva (@JasonSilva) would have been called a "performance philosopher" by counterculture icon Timothy Leary. Among many things, he's a futurist, filmmaker, creator of short video series Shots of Awe, former host of the National Geographic Channel's Brain Games and current host of Origins: The Journey of Humankind. "In the information age, you don't teach philosophy...you perform it." -Timothy Leary "Everything I do is a response against meaninglessness." -Jason Silva The Cheat Sheet: How our concepts of self are formed -- often through the eyes of others -- and how they affect our behavior. How top performers excel by shutting down the editorial parts of the human brain coined by Buddhists as the monkey mind. Why "unscripted" isn't the same as "unprepared," and how videos can be edited to elicit altered states of consciousness. How good directors help performers get out of their heads -- while bad directors do just the opposite. How is day-to-day reality edited by context, similar to the Kuleshov effec

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. This time around, we talk about the factors that lead to self-sabotage, the self-perpetuating consequences, and what we can do to put a stop to the whole mess. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: Do you agonize over the limited time available to deal with your workload -- or overall lifeload? When we're overwhelmed, a lot of things get swept under the rug. We're compelled to procrastinate, and whatever's left undone begins to build up -- which leaves us even more stressed and overwhelmed. We compare ourselves with people we know who seem to have it all together -- and our self-worth suffers as we fail to live up to what we believe should be possible. Why does this cycle of self-sabotage happen and how can we identify and put a stop to it? Some suggestions: eliminate distraction, change your environment, use the pomodoro technique, and try Ja

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: What are some tactics we can use to handle over-talkers short of hiring an orchestra to play them off? Does a lack of college education really put you at a disadvantage with your peers once you've already established competence in your field? [Related: Joi Ito | How to Survive Our Faster Future (Episode 595) and There vs. They're vs. Their] What's the childhood story behind why Jordan became so interested in what makes people tick? Are you at the whim of your insecurities? [Related: Mike Rowe | The Way I Heard It (Episode 597)] Tip: If you're trying to change careers or you're looking for a job, consider spending a little to get professional photos for your website, LinkedIn, etc. A shout out to the Stance sock company who heard Jordan's personal endorsement a few weeks ago and sent him some new socks for free! Have any questions,

Shaquille O'Neal (@SHAQ) has been retired from basketball for almost six years, but he's still got his irons in plenty of fires. Here, we'll discuss everything from superheroes to law enforcement to business to sports to podcasting to -- yes -- the Flat Earth Theory. "It's never gotten out of control because even to this day I don't consider myself a celebrity." -Shaquille O'Neal The Cheat Sheet: What real-world experience Shaq is getting to prepare for a political race in 2020. How Shaq assembled what he calls The Panel to help manage not only his career but all his important life decisions -- and how you can do the same. Why Shaq doesn't consider himself a celebrity (and why that still isn't a good reason to bug him in the middle of dinner). How Shaq manages his emotions so he stays non-reactive on and off the court. Does Shaq really believe in the Flat Earth Theory? And so much more... Want to reach the fabled inbox zero? SaneBox learns what email is important to you and filters out what isn't. Visit san

Neal Brennan (@nealbrennan) is a comedy writer/producer/director, co-creator of Chappelle's Show, and most recently featured in his live stand-up solo show 3 Mics now at Netflix. "A buddy of mine calls me Benjamin Button 'cause he says I'm doing my career backwards." -Neal Brennan The Cheat Sheet: How did Neal Brennan's 3 Mics show come about, and what's the idea behind it's three parts: one-liners, emotional stuff, and stand-up? The comedy writing process and how it mirrors real life. A mindset to get a more realistic handle on the potential outcome of a given project or situation. Tips on getting happy from a guy who's tried everything -- and why achievement can't be a substitute for happiness. When networking, remember Neal's sage words: "No one's going to help you in a way that's not beneficial to them." And so much more... Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! If you're a business owner, did you k

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. Ryan Michler (@orderofman) of Order of Man joins us to discuss how we can apply The After Action Review to better process -- and learn from -- our mistakes and successes. The Cheat Sheet: The After Action Review is a debriefing process that helps process recent successes and failures in order to learn from them. It consists of asking five questions: What did I get accomplished? What did I not accomplish? What did I do well? What did I not do well? What can I do better next time? To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right! In this episode: If high school and college didn't give you the best years of your life, it just means "the good old days" are probably still ahead. Are you lazy, disenchanted by a lack of challenges, or just afraid to fail? Have you considered the merits of self-deprecation? Criticism loses its potential for being constructive if it's not specific enough. Will your actions make the boat go faster? Relationships in the age of social media can be tricky, as we talked about in FMF 102. Did you know that Facebook has breakup tools? Jennie has a brilliant tip for people who are running late. Wasted potential is depressing. Quick shoutouts to Andrew Byrne and Jordan Laverty! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Check out Jordan's other show: The Forbes List, and Jason's other show: Grumpy Old

Brett McKay (@artofmanliness) is the founder of Art of Manliness, one of the largest independent men's lifestyle sites on the Web. Similarities in the naming schemes between AoM and AoC are purely coincidental! The Cheat Sheet: What is manliness? What are the domains -- the hard and soft skills -- an aspiring well-rounded man should develop? Why men of any culture should strive to be useful, not important. How to increase resilience by challenging your faulty "Me, Always, Everything" style of thinking. Why action -- and not getting stuck in your own head -- is the key to flourishing. And so much more... Want to reach the fabled inbox zero? SaneBox learns what email is important to you and filters out what isn't. Visit sanebox.com/artofcharm today and you'll get an extra $25 credit on top of the two-week free trial! Are you trying to hire the right person for your business, but the best candidates keep slipping away? Let ZipRecruiter -- the fastest way to hire great people -- help you screen only the best he

Robert H. Frank (@econnaturalist) is the HJ Louis Professor of Economics at Cornell University and author of Success and Luck: Good Fortune and the Myth of Meritocracy. The Cheat Sheet: As we strive to achieve success, there are natural limits on how hard we can work and how smart we can be. There's no denying that luck plays a part in this achievement. Understand the role of luck, talent, and hard work in the overall formula. Discover why we tend to minimize the role of luck in our success. Find out how to maximize our luck in life by way of context outside of talent and work. Learn new ways to look at the luck factor and turn it to our advantage. And so much more... Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! Hate grocery shopping but you love to cook? Blue Apron delivers recipes and farm fresh ingredients to you. As an Art of Charm listener, you get your first two meals free here! Does your business have an Internet pres

In this Minisode Monday, Jordan reflects on a grumpy old man he met in New York City and wonders if this fellow was a grumpy young man, or if he became that way over time. The Cheat Sheet: Some say that people don't change. But if you listen to this podcast, you already know that's not true. The real question is: are you making an effort to change for the better, or are you just letting change happen with the passage of time? How do you see yourself today as compared to how you were ten years ago? Are you making deposits to your relationships, or are you constantly on borrowed credit? How do you react when things don't go your way -- do you blame others or take responsibility? We're always working toward something -- either by effort or default. Are you allowing yourself to have a say in how the future you fits into the world, or are you slowly trudging along the path to curmudgeonry? To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Like our new show music? It's Start Shootin' by Little People. As a freelancer, how do you politely ask current clients for referrals? [Related: Boomerang] Is it wrong to leave the door open to a relationship that's been broken by the presence of a psychotic alter-ego? How does someone go about getting audio testimonials from satisfied customers (as we do for our AoC Bootcamps)? [Related: Alex Kouts] How would James Bond make a smooth transition to the private sector -- and explain a lack of social media presence to a potential employer? Advice for overcoming cold calling fear. [Related: episode 554 with Daniel Pink, author of To Sell Is Human, Bill Guertin's The 800-Pound Gorilla of Sales, and various books by Jeb Blount] If you're in a relationship that ever makes you feel in danger, you'll want to hear our interview with Gavin

Clint Emerson (@100deadlyskills) is a retired Navy SEAL, founding partner of crisis management and risk mitigation company Escape the Wolf, and author of 100 Deadly Skills: Survival Edition: The SEAL Operative's Guide to Surviving in the Wild and Being Prepared for Any Disaster. The Cheat Sheet: How much of a SEAL's life is training, and how much is spent in active deployment? How can we spot potential terrorists in the making? What's an express kidnapping, and what can you do if you find yourself in the middle of one? What are the four tiers of awareness? How do you make yourself inconspicuous (or "grey") in public places to avoid scrutiny from people who mean you harm? And so much more... Want three free rides up to $10 each? Download the free Lyft app today and enter promo code AOCPODCAST in the payment section! Whether you're a lady or a gent, you don't need to know what MicroModal fabric is to enjoy the comfort of MeUndies; you just need to wear them -- support this show (and yourself) with MeUndies he

Mike Rowe (@mikeroweworks) of Dirty Jobs fame joins us to talk about the skills gap, authenticity, and life experiences possible outside the comfort zone. Just don't tell him he's following his passion. The Cheat Sheet: Did you know Mike Rowe started his show business career in opera -- to get women? What are Anagnorisis and Peripeteia? Discover how Mike broke a pattern of commodity hosting by approaching the profession as a tradesman. Bromide busting and the problems with conventional wisdom. Why finding and filling a niche may ultimately be better than chasing what you think is your dream job. And so much more... Wearing a stylish timepiece shouldn't break the bank. Art of Charm listeners can find out why MVMT is the fastest-growing watch company in the world for 15% off with free shipping and free returns here! Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! Want to reach the fabled inbox zero? SaneBox learns what email is i