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In this Minisode Monday, guest James Clear rejoins us to talk about how pre-commitment (aka implementation intentions) can make following through with a plan more likely. The Cheat Sheet: "Amateurs do things when it's easy -- when they feel motivated to do them. Professionals do things on a schedule." -James Clear Pre-commitment (aka implementation intentions) is the idea that if you lay out a plan for implementing your behavior with a very specific time, place, and location, you're much more likely to follow through. In one particular study, ninety percent of the group that made made a pre-commitment with implementation intentions were compliant with their goal. Discover how Jordan uses the pre-commitment to implementation intentions in his own schedule to get what some consider an outrageous amount of things done every week. (This applies to work as well as leisure.) To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also

Sally Hogshead (@SallyHogshead), author of Fascinate: How to Make Your Brand Impossible to Resist, rejoins the show to tell us how our audience scored in her Fascination Advantage Assessment. You'll be as surprised as she was when you hear the results! The Cheat Sheet: Personality Danger Zones -- understanding how other people see us and maximizing the chances of making a positive first impression. The upsides and downsides to creativity. How positive attributes can translate into pitfalls. Do you partake of "idea snobbery?" What patterns do Art of Charm listeners have most in common? And so much more... Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/sally-hogshead-fascination-advantage-assessment-bonus/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rel

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: A recovering smart alec wonders how to get a second chance at a bad first impression. Zooming out on talent to see the skill beneath. How do you become so interesting that people can't help but befriend you, hire you, and line up around the block to get your attention? A close friend suddenly stops responding to every effort at contact -- how can you find out what went wrong? When you're a child of the world, your hybrid accent is nothing to be ashamed of. When you've been burned in past relationships, how do you get over the "there are no good [women/men]" fallacy? [Related: Kimberly Seltzer's advice for How to Find a Therapist] Shoutouts to Konrad -- who used negotiation tactics he learned at AoC while working on The Paris Agreement -- and Xana, who benefits most from our Minisode Monday episodes! Have any questions, comments, o

Jessica Tracy (@ProfJessTracy) is a professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, Canada, where she also directs the Emotion & Self Lab. She is the author of Take Pride: Why the Deadliest Sin Holds the Secret to Human Success. The Cheat Sheet: Pride is a universal human emotion and a force that can be harnessed to help humans succeed -- it's a key ingredient to confidence. Understand the difference between hubristic and authentic pride -- why we should seek out one but try to minimize the other. Learn how pride intersects with grit (per episode 526 guest Angela Duckworth). Identify pride to gain an advantage in shifting our own behavior and knowing how to react to others. Discover how the statuses of dominance and prestige are affected by pride. And so much more... Over at the Mind Pump Podcast, hosts Adam Schafer, Justin Andrews, and Sal Di Stefano “pull back the curtain on the mythology, snake oil, and pseudo-science that pervades the fitness industry." Check it out here! Doe

Joi Ito (@joi) is the director of the MIT Media Lab, a professor of practice in media arts and sciences at MIT, and co-author of Whiplash: How to Survive Our Faster Future. [Photo by Andy Ryan] "Education is what people do to you, and learning is what you do to yourself." -Joi Ito The Cheat Sheet: How does someone who dropped out of college three times wind up directing a lab at MIT? The pros and cons of formal learning vs. informal learning. Why does diversity make for better problem solving? What's the secret to building a deep and diverse network? What do running a World of Warcraft guild and spinning records as a club DJ have to do with motivating groups and accomplishing big goals? And so much more... Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/595/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, p

In this Minisode Monday, we talk about the pointless habit we all have of mentally reliving embarrassing moments in our lives and what we can do to stop it. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: There are times when we all mull over embarrassing moments from our past. Like worrying, it's a pointless exercise. Ivan Pavlov proved that he could anchor a dog's feelings to stimuli. As humans, we're even better at doing this to ourselves. We beat ourselves up over a story we've built around a feeling and reinforce this negative pattern. The challenge: every time you start mulling over an event that makes you feel bad about yourself, try to remind yourself of a moment in which you triumphed -- an event that made you feel good. Try to think of something new each week that's positive and helpful toward breaking the habit of gravitating toward the negative. To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our S

John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) is the founder and host of EOFire, an award-winning podcast where he chats with today's most successful entrepreneurs seven days a week -- with over 1400 interviews under his belt. How is he so productive? He shares some of his secrets with us here. The Cheat Sheet: How does John stay focused enough to put out a new podcast every single day and have a life? Does social media promote de-evolution? Where does John find new books to read (and what's been worth reading twice)? How does John cultivate the discipline to fight back against weapons of mass distraction? John shares some literal war stories. And so much more... Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/john-lee-dumas-discipline-mastery-bonus/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode: Understanding people in person can be challenging enough. So how do we read between the lines when people write to us to determine the best advice to give? How do you remind yourself to do the doorway drill (as discussed on episode 582)? You don't really need to listen to The Art of Charm podcast anymore because you've got a handle on this stuff, right? Dr. Carol Dweck would probably disagree. Jordan is SUPER EXCITED TODAY! It's okay to be more respectful than you think you need to be. How do you get a cab in a busy city? Want our advice but you don't want your question made public? We can give you a secret identity! Need to make some ice, ice, baby? Jordan takes a strong Stance on socks. Do you tweet? Sweet! You can reach Jordan here and Jason here. Shoutouts to Jeff Ammons, Philip "Foxy" T, and Alex Kouts, for that matter! Have any questions, co

The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) trio of Johnny, AJ, and Jordan goes over the importance of resilience and how we can develop it to be ready for anything life throws our way. [Photo by Art Bromage] The Cheat Sheet: What is resilience and why is it so important? Consider resilience as a bedrock mindset upon which other improvements are built. Johnny, AJ, and Jordan share personal examples of the role resilience has played in their lives here at AoC. "Bend, don't break." Learn actionable techniques for developing resilience that will make you ready for anything. And so much more... Order clothes online and try before you buy with JackThreads! Go to JackThreads.com and enter code CHARM when you submit your try-out for 20% off anything you keep! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/594/ HELP US SP

Roy Wood Jr. (@roywoodjr) was on Variety's 10 Comics to Watch For list in 2016, is currently a correspondent on The Daily Show with Trevor Noah, and is the star of Father Figure on Comedy Central. The Cheat Sheet: Learn how a youthful indiscretion was "the most important thing" that led Roy Wood Jr. to pursue a life of comedy. Discover how a forgiving journalism school and a deal with his mother gave Roy's comedy career the low-stakes structure it needed to grow early on. Find out how Roy took being booed off stage as an opportunity to learn rather than as a soul-crushing defeat. How does a performer stay visible and relevant in such a hyper-competitive landscape? Understand how comics practice nuances you may not even notice to punctuate their presentations (and how Roy learned to lose some of his bad habits by observation). And so much more... Are you trying to hire the right person for your business, but the best candidates keep slipping away? Let ZipRecruiter -- the fastest way to hire great people -- h

Jonathan Raymond, author of Good Authority: How to Become the Leader Your Team Is Waiting For, tells us how we can let go of resistance to change by using the DANCE Method. If you've ever struggled with time management, you'll really appreciate the example he demonstrates! Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: D: Define the problem simply. A: Assess the impact. N: Name the underlying dynamic. C: Create the smallest next step you can. E: Establish personal accountability. To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he actually reads everything)! Listen to The Art of Charm, The Forbes List, and hundreds of your favorite podcasts with the free PodcastOne app (on iOS and Android) here! Does your busin

Kerry Dolan (@KerryDolan), Assistant Managing Editor of Wealth at Forbes, curates the Forbes World Billionaires List. The Forbes List, hosted by Jordan Harbinger, reveals the details behind the lists that don't make it to the magazine or online. You'll get a deeper look at what it takes to put together Forbes' lists of the top companies, wealthiest people, and biggest celebrities in the world. In this first episode, Forbes Assistant Managing Editor Kerry Dolan joins Jordan to discuss: How Forbes verifies wealth. How list makers spend their money. How inherited and self-made billionaires differ. How list makers respond to rank. The drastic measures one billionaire took to get off the list. And so much more... Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kerry-dolan-the-forbes-list-bonus/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode: Jordan really does read everything. Per episode 572's reverse interview with Gabriel Mizrahi, how do you figure out what to pursue that is uniquely you? The thought of a lifetime of chronic pain after an injury is menacing. What can you do to face it? Does your life have room for people who make you feel small and undeserving? A lot of self-appointed gurus who preach the importance of hustle are doing it without the muscle. Identifying and addressing your own bad patterns should be empowering, not defeating. Jordan talks about a past vacation destination most sane people wouldn't choose. Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com! Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon

James Clear (@james_clear) experiments with and writes about behavioral psychology, habit formation, and performance improvement through mental models. The Cheat Sheet: Why is decision-making such a fallible process? What are mental models, and how can they help us make better decisions? Why should we collect mental models rather than relying on one as a default to solve all problems? How can we ruthlessly eliminate mediocre results? Where is the Zone of Good Luck and how can we live there? And so much more... With pain-free invoicing, FreshBooks helps entrepreneurs and freelancers save time and avoid a lot of the stress that comes with running a small business. Try a month of unrestricted use for free here (no credit card required)! Enter "ART OF CHARM" in the how you heard about us section. Does your business have an Internet presence? Now save a whopping 50% on new webhosting packages here with HostGator by using coupon code CHARM! Hate grocery shopping but you love to cook? Blue Apron delivers recipes a

Judah Pollack (@JudahThinks) and Olivia Fox Cabane (@foxcabane) rejoin the show to discuss their new book, The Net and the Butterfly: The Art and Practice of Breakthrough Thinking. The Cheat Sheet: What is breakthrough thinking -- and how does it relate to nets and butterflies? Though we all have the same brain architecture, why do some of us find breakthrough thinking more natural than others? Learn how to access your brain's genius lounge (without being impeded by your brain's executive office). Understand how your brain pieces together disparate information to solve problems in unique ways.  Spot your own native breakthrough style and cultivate habits that more frequently activate it. And so much more... Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! Whether you're a lady or a gent, you don't need to know what MicroModal fabric is to enjoy the comfort of MeUndies; you just need to wear them -- support this show (and yoursel

If something can be learned, it is a skill. If it's innate, it's a talent. The reality: most so-called talents are skills in disguise, so stop making excuses that you're not talented enough to do things and skill up! Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: The concept of "talent" is overrated. If something can be learned, it is a skill. If it's innate, it's a talent. A lot of so-called talents are really skills in disguise. If even one person can learn something through study, coaching, and effort, it's learnable -- therefore, a skill. Next time you put off an activity because you think you're not "talented" enough, try to determine if you're just using it as an excuse. Maybe you avoid shooting hoops with your coworkers on lunch break because you think they're all so much more talented than you. While it might be true that you suck at basketball

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In the process of getting in better shape, is it too much to ask that the people you attract are similarly trying to improve their own lives in some way? Your partner is perfect in every way until the alcohol comes out. How do you deal with this Jekyll and Hyde scenario? You're really just shy, but people think you're arrogant because you don't mingle well. It's a common problem, but we've got an uncommon solution. Can deep work happen in a team setting, or does it need to be an isolated process? Deep Work author Cal Newport weighs in. Does organizing your life by calendar weeks or months in advance put a damper on flexibility? Jordan can't run 25 miles barefoot, but he can do this. Quick shoutouts to Glenn, Nick, and our number one fan (she knows who she is)! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at

Steven Kotler (@steven_kotler) revisits the show to discuss his latest book, Stealing Fire: How Silicon Valley, the Navy SEALs, and Maverick Scientists Are Revolutionizing the Way We Live and Work. The Cheat Sheet: Why did psychology take a hundred-year detour around the therapeutic benefits of non-ordinary states of consciousness (NOSC)? Learn about ecstasis -- a specific range of NOSC sought by high performers like Navy SEALs and the elites in Silicon Valley. Compare the speed of conscious thought versus the speed of unconscious thought. What's the difference between ecstasis and flow? How MDMA-assisted psychotherapy significantly outperforms traditional talk therapy and medication in treating PTSD -- sometimes curing it completely. And so much more... Learn over 500 subjects (no tests or homework!) at The Great Courses Plus -- The Art of Charm listeners get one month free here! With pain-free invoicing, FreshBooks helps entrepreneurs and freelancers save time and avoid a lot of the stress that comes with

Jonathan Raymond (@jonathanraymond) is the owner of management training startup Refound and author of Good Authority: How to Become the Leader Your Team Is Waiting For. The Cheat Sheet: What's the real purpose of a business? Why should a business owner or manager treat employees with the same respect afforded to the most valuable customers? Understand why getting rid of old, inherited beliefs about being in an authority position are critical to becoming the kind of leader people want to work for. How can countless microbehaviors among members of a workforce add up to negatively influence a company's culture, and what can we do to address them? Are you a Friend, a Fighter, or a Fixer? Learn to identify your own leadership archetype and work with its strengths and weaknesses. And so much more... A gift from the heart is always worth giving -- like farm-to-table and artisan florist bouquets from bouqs.com. Art of Charm listeners enter promo code CHARM to get 20% off! Freshly dipped strawberries from Shari's Be

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away. Um, like, so today we're going to talk about filler words -- why you should avoid using them, and how to shed them for good. Let's get to it! The Cheat Sheet: When you're trying to convey a message with credibility, it's not just what you say, but how you say it. Overuse of filler words like "um" and "like" are lessening the impact of that message. Even if we think we've got a handle on filler words by consciously choosing not to use them, tension and stress can make us forget. Like any other bad habits, the filler words we use need to be attacked with deliberate practice. You may not even be aware of the filler words you use. Record your side of a few phone conversations using an app like TapeACall or Call Recorder for Skype. Get a simple audio editor like the free Audacity; edit out all of the filler words from your conversations above.