Legally Clueless

In this episode of Legally Clueless, you’ll meet Rachel Lubanga, the eighth born in her family, born with albinism, and raised in Kakamega, Kenya. Rachel opens up about her journey through special and regular schooling, the stigma and myths she’s had to navigate, the mental health challenges that followed, and the bold ways she has advocated for herself and others.This episode also connects to themes we’ll explore at our upcoming Wellness Talk in Nairobi – from setting boundaries with family, to reclaiming your identity, to healing from the silence of those who should have supported you.

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Barbara Malowa, senior partner at Alakona Law and the lawyer who supported Adelle through her own divorce. Together, they unpack the legal truths that every woman should know about marriage and divorce in Kenya. From understanding the marriage contract, property rights, and parental responsibility, to navigating divorce timelines, court processes, custody, and protection from emotional and physical abuse, this conversation is raw, informative, and deeply necessary. Barbara also breaks down:The 4 legal grounds for divorce in KenyaWhat proof the courts actually requireWhy marriage is easier to enter than exit legallyThe real cost and timeline of divorceWhat to do if you’re being financially bullied or emotionally abusedHow to document and protect yourself even when you're still in loveWhether you're married, thinking of leaving, or want to be prepared, this episode is for every woman determined to live shame-free and fully informed.

This week’s Midweek Tease is all about building healthy boundaries with the people we love most, family and close friends. Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first, especially when guilt, cultural expectations, and old family patterns are involved.But the truth is: boundaries are essential for your mental health and for healthier, more respectful relationships. In this episode:

In Episode 337 of the Legally Clueless podcast, we continue with Part 2 of Karima’s powerful story. In Part 1, she took us through her childhood growing up in the Akorino church, obedience as an expectation, ridicule in school, and her quiet acts of resistance. Now in Part 2, Karima shares her adulthood: her marriage, her decision to walk away, and why in 2025 she removed her turban, a bold step into living life on her own terms.In this episode:Why she walked away from her marriageHer warning about the reasons we enter marriageThe decision to remove her turban after years of wearing itHow her identity shifted outside the Akorino churchThe peace and self-ownership she’s found sinceThis week, we’re inviting you to a powerful LCA Wellness Talk with Counselling Psychologist Faith Guchu. Family relationships shift as we grow and sometimes, they get more complicated. In this virtual session, we’ll unpack:

This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle is joined by certified fitness & nutrition coach Michelle Adagala to unpack the myths, mistakes, and truths about women’s health, fat loss, and muscle building. Michelle breaks down why the scale isn’t your biggest marker of success, the role of muscle in long-term health, and why strength training is essential for every woman, at every age. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why muscle is your best ally for fat loss, hormone balance & healthy agingThe truth about calorie deficits, plateaus & metabolic adaptationWhat your plate really needs to look like (yes, you can still eat chapati & pilau!)How to start strength training at home without expensive gym membershipsCommon myths that hold women back from sustainable resultsThis isn’t about shrinking yourself. It’s about fuelling a stronger, healthier, freer version of you.Want to go deeper?Michelle’s coaching details are here:https://thrivebymitchelle.com/www.instagram.com/ac_mitchelle

In this week’s episode of The Midweek Tease, Adelle unpacks a quiet fear so many of us carry: the fear of being seen trying. She explores how cultural conditioning, perfectionism, and comparison keep us hiding our first attempts. And she shares practical steps and resources to help you overcome this fear, so you can live a fuller, braver life. You’ll learn:✨ Why the fear of being seen runs so deep

In this episode, we begin Part 1 of a gripping, bold, and deeply personal story from Karima, who was born into the Akorino faith, wrapped in a turban from infancy, and told her life must be governed by obedience. But what happens when obedience comes at the cost of selfhood? Karima shares the emotional, spiritual, and social weight of growing up Akorino: the mocking stares, the silence she was forced to swallow, and the small, brave acts of resistance she carried in her pocket.In this episode you'll learn:What it means to have your identity chosen for you from birthThe shame, isolation, and bullying she faced at schoolHow fear of hurting her mother shaped her decisionsThe first time a boy finally spoke to her and why it matteredRebellion wrapped in denim: the power of wearing jeans as an Akorino girlWhy she kept performing even when the church said it was sinfulConnect with Karima here: https://www.instagram.com/lylowkarima/This is Part 1 of a 2-part story.Next week, we dive into the cost of resistance, spiri

This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle is joined by body talk practitioner Janet in a deeply revealing conversation about how our bodies store unprocessed emotions, trauma, and grief, and how that silence can manifest into chronic illness. Janet shares powerful truths about the innate intelligence of the body and how we’ve been socialized to disconnect from it.This episode isn’t just about a therapy session, it’s a roadmap to reclaiming your health, your softness, and your self-awareness. You’ll learn:What your body is really trying to say through symptomsHow women’s overgiving often leads to depletion and diseaseThe physical cost of silence, grief, and not feeling safe to express emotionsThe connection between emotion and digestion, menstruation, and immunityHow body talk therapy helped Adelle unlock the emotional blocks tied to her voice, creativity, and healingWant to go deeper?You can connect with Janet here: https://www.instagram.com/overflow.wellness/

In this episode, Adelle Onyango unpacks what real community looks and feels like, far from the loud, performative, and inherited ideas we’ve been socialized into. She speaks candidly about the power of chosen family, the quiet loneliness of being surrounded but unseen, and the importance of intentionally building a nourishing support system. You'll learn:What makes authentic community so hard to buildFour signs you're in the wrong communityFive tips to create a community that truly supports who you're becomingWhy it's okay to outgrow people and start freshHow two people and a group chat can be enoughThis is your gentle reminder that community is not about numbers, it’s about nourishment, safety, and being deeply seen.Tap play. Then ask yourself: Who’s in your corner?Join Our Community:Sign up for the Legally Clueless Africa newsletter here:www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Legally Clueless on Instagram:www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ Legally Clueless on TikTok:www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica Subsc

In this episode, you’ll hear a story that holds deep loss, raw honesty, unexpected pivots, and the powerful role community plays in our healing. Grace Wanjiku, shares her incredible journey, from sacrificing her education as a firstborn, to navigating grief after losing her brother, to reaching a breaking point with depression that almost cost her life. Through it all, Grace’s story reminds us that healing isn’t linear and sometimes, it’s the very people we think we’re meant to save who end up saving us.In this episode, Grace unpacks:Being the firstborn and carrying unspoken expectationsLosing her brother and spiraling into a faith crisisAttempting suicide and finding help in the nick of timeThe stigma around mental health and resisting hospitalizationDiscovering purpose again as an MC in a male-dominated spaceHow community, therapy, and spiritual honesty carried her throughThis story will stay with you. It’s a reminder that even in our darkest seasons, hope and healing can still find us.Sign up for the Legal

In this deeply affirming episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits with board-certified psychiatrist Dr. Vundi, known as The Women’s Psychiatrist, to unpack how our hormonal phases shape our mental health.Together, they dismantle the shame, silence, and stigma around PMS, PMDD, postpartum depression, perimenopause, and more. Dr. Vundi brings her powerful combination of lived experience and clinical knowledge to offer practical insights for navigating womanhood with grace, information, and community. Whether you're menstruating, postpartum, perimenopausal, or simply tired of being told to “tough it out,” this conversation is your language, your mirror, and your toolkit.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:– Cycle syncing & targeted self-care– Nutrition tips for hormone balance– Magnesium, Vitamin D & sleep– Mental health support for PMS & PMDD– Perimenopause, menopause, & sexual wellness– Community, self-trust, and dismantling shame

The Midweek Tease — A Legally Clueless Africa ProductionIn this episode, Adelle Onyango, unpacks what it truly means to decenter men. She reflects on how this journey began in the quiet spaces of therapy and not with a bold Instagram caption and how she continues unlearning societal conditioning that told her she needed to be chosen to be worthy.If you’ve ever caught yourself performing for approval, living for someone else’s gaze, or shrinking your voice to fit in, this episode is your reminder: you were never meant to be someone’s accessory, you were meant to be whole.She also shares practical steps to begin your own decentering journey and the simple but radical ways she's reclaiming herself, from trusting her intuition to laughing without apology.Tap in and share this with another woman who is choosing herself.Join Our Community:

In this deeply raw and inspiring episode, we head to Rongai to hear from Tito Karis, a former campus radio star who shares his unexpected journey from multimedia university and a passion for radio to becoming a matatu conductor. He opens up about:The brutal realities of chasing a dream without financial stabilityThe shame and strength of redefining success on his own termsHow ambition can blind you—and still be the thing that saves youAnd why, despite it all, he still believes he will do radio again This story is not just about Tito. It’s about every African dreamer navigating shame, survival and self-worth in a system that often makes you feel invisible. It’s tender, powerful, and absolutely necessary.After listening, tell us: What part of Tito’s story did you connect with most?Connect with Tito here: www.instagram.com/titokaris254 

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Mary, her first friend in Limuru and one of the most inspiring women she’s had the joy to learn from.At 60, Mary returned to Kenya after decades abroad and chose to begin again. With no farming background and plenty of doubt, she used YouTube and sheer curiosity to learn banana farming and today, she runs a thriving farm and produce shop.Mary shares powerful reflections on aging, friendship, financial independence, health, and embracing change at any stage of life. She speaks honestly about the fears that come with starting over and why doing it afraid is still better than doing nothing at all.This episode is a celebration of women who dare to redesign their lives, no matter their age.

In this episode Adelle shares 5 reflections that have stayed with her since her conversation with Felgonah on For Mannerless Women. They spoke about self-trust, softness as resistance, sacred grief, and becoming a woman who no longer asks for permission.But this episode isn’t just about her story, it’s about what her courage awakened in Adelle. If you're navigating your own unlearning… if you're questioning the rules you were raised with… this is for you.In this episode, Adelle reflects on:Why shame is not a requirement for womanhoodWhat it means to choose softness in a hard worldHow self-expression becomes an act of resistanceWhy grief can be sacred and necessaryHow mannerlessness is actually a return to self

In this powerful episode of Legally Clueless, Wairimu, who takes us on her journey of discovery, unlocking that her brain works differently than she was taught to believe. In Part 2 of her story, she unpacks visiting a therapist, pschiatrist and what coping tools work for her

Welcome back to For Mannerless Women, the podcast creating a bold, shame-free space for African women to meet their most free selves. In this deeply vulnerable episode, Adelle sits down with counseling psychologist Daisy Kindi to unpack how childhood trauma still whispers in our adult relationships, from who we’re drawn to, to how we react in love. They explore:What really qualifies as childhood trauma in African homesWhy your inner child might be running the show in your relationshipsThe hidden ways trauma shapes attachment stylesFirstborn daughters, survival personalities & the invisible labor of African girlsThe healing journey: shadow work, boundaries, and reclaiming your storyWhether you’re in therapy, considering it, or just beginning to question old patterns, this is your sign to start unlearning with us.

In this episode, Adelle shares a deeply personal milestone — 1 year of sobriety. No dramatic rock bottom. No intervention. Just a conscious decision to start honouring her body by removing what no longer served her — alcohol. She opens up about:Why she decided to quit drinkingThe unexpected shifts she’s experienced in her body, mind, and relationshipsHer biggest lessons from this year of clarity and emotional honestyPractical tips for anyone considering a sober or sober-curious lifestyleThis isn’t a preachy episode. It’s a real conversation about choosing yourself, rewriting your story, and listening to your body. Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or just exploring new ways of healing — this one’s for you.

In this powerful episode of Legally Clueless, Adelle shares her raw and emotional experience at the June 25th protests in Kenya, a moment that reminded her of the urgency of using our voices, the strength of collective resistance, and the humanity behind the headlines. Also in this episode, we meet Wairimu, who takes us on the beginning of her journey of discovery, unlocking that her brain works differently than she was taught to believe. In Part 1 of her story, she unpacks what it felt like to live in a world that doesn’t accommodate neurodivergence, the doubts she internalized, and what finally led to her self-awareness. ✨ Tune in for:A ground-level, personal view of the #RejectFinanceBill protestsHow trauma and resilience live side by side in resistance spacesWairimu’s deeply moving story of reflection, misdiagnosis, and rediscoveryThis is a reminder that our stories — whether shouted in the streets or whispered in therapy rooms — are valid, urgent, and deserve to be heard.

In this episode, Meg shares PART 2 of her life story as an African woman who is living with a disability. Her's is an inspiring story taking you through relationships, schooling and how tough it is to look for a job! Connect with Meg here: https://www.instagram.com/megchesoli/ Sign up for the Legally Clueless Africa newsletter here:www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Legally Clueless on Instagram:www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ Legally Clueless on TikTok:www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica Subscribe to the Legally Clueless YouTube channel here: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube Want to share your story on Legally Clueless?Fill out this form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8