Awesome Marriage Podcast

I’m so thankful for this conversation with Stephanie Broersma about her brand-new resource: Reclaimed: A Course to Guide You Through Betrayal and Infidelity Trauma. This powerful resource is designed for those walking through the trauma of betrayal, offering hope, healing, and a path forward. In our conversation, Stephanie shares how the course helps you stay connected to the Lord in the midst of grief, while also providing practical next steps and long-term rhythms to move toward restoration. She reminds us that your spouse’s decisions do not define your worth and that there is a real enemy fighting against both your marriage and your identity in Christ. If you’ve been hurting, this conversation will point you back to truth, hope, and healing.   Episode Highlights: What fires together, wires together. You have options when triggers begin to surface. Triggers don’t equate to a lack of forgiveness. There’s no need to rush. Give yourself time to get your emotions regulated before making a major decision. Allow

This is such an incredible conversation to wrap up our Fridays in the Fall, Wider Lens series. Jerry Flowers is bringing encouragement about the patterns of your life and posture of your heart as we talk through his new book Heart Rehab: Finding the You God Created You to Be. Lean into the discomfort, create disciplines for preparedness, and surrender your need for control in order to step into your true calling as a son or daughter of the Lord Almighty. He loves you, he is for you, and we can trust him with our hearts!   Episode Highlights: Stop blaming everyone else. Take time for self reflection.  If we invite God in, He can use all seasons for our good and growth. Intimacy with the Lord allows us to grow into the people God created us to be.  Discipline and preparation go hand in hand. The more disciplined you are, the more prepared you are for what God has next.  Culture influences us to mislabel our fears, thoughts and anxieties. Make sure you are labeling them correctly. Strong core beliefs help us com

In this episode, Dr. Kim and John West discuss “Stockholm Syndrome Christianity” and how cultural captivity can pull Christians away from biblical truth. They explore the impact of these influences on marriage, from weakened faithfulness to the generational effects of broken promises on children. The conversation highlights the need for intentionality in guarding our hearts, shaping our children’s worldview, and staying rooted in truth. Listeners will be encouraged to build marriages that mutually support, advocate, and thrive in a world that often pulls in the opposite direction.   Episode Highlights: As believers, what we are consuming directly affects how boldly we live out our faith. Too many believers aren’t prioritizing biblical truth and their relationships reflect their culture more than their faith. The church has not been immune to cultural influences.  Culture tells us that feelings trump biblical truth.   Quotes from Today’s Episode: If you live your life oriented towards God's truth, it's designe

Today we’re diving into Kent’s brand-new book, Don’t Bench Yourself. In it, Kent challenges readers to take an honest look at their lives, at the opportunities they might be missing, the risks they’re avoiding, and the goals left sitting on the table. His message is clear: it’s time to get off the bench and stay in the game. Whether it’s in your career, your marriage, or your parenting journey, you can’t afford to sit on the sidelines. This book will inspire you to move past fear, let go of shame, and trust God’s perfect timing as you keep pressing forward.   Episode Highlights: What is slow quitting? Fear paralyzes us from stepping into deeper connections.  Shame kicks in when we try and fail and then we believe the lie that it’ll never get better than this. Criticism can inhibit someone’s desire to continue pressing forward. Motivation can decrease when we don’t see quick results.   Quotes from Today’s Episode: For some of us, what we need to see with our eyes of faith, is a life lived and ended in faith.

Nancy and I are back together to discuss a topic that frequently shows up in our inbox: one-sided marriages. These are spouses who reach out because, even in the midst of disconnect and hurt, they still desire a healthy, God-honoring marriage, but feel like they’re the only one who cares or the only one willing to put in the work. How do you reconcile and reconnect? That’s the focus of our conversation today. I’m praying this episode encourages those who feel alone and offers hope and next steps for fighting for your marriage.   Episode Highlights: Love like Christ without enabling. Communicate with curiosity, not accusation. Persevere in prayer and faithful action. Seek God’s glory above all else   Quotes from Today’s Episode: Fighting for your marriage as a Christian means pursuing Christ-like love even when it's not reciprocated This isn't about becoming a doormat or enabling destructive behavior, but rather embodying the gospel in your relationship. Approach with curiosity rather than accusation: "I've no

It's week two of Wider Lens. This week, Jonathon shares his story of recognizing his addiction, confronting the root causes beneath it, and finding freedom through Christ. From misordered priorities to the hidden struggles many Christians face, this conversation explores recovery, sanctification, and the hope that healing is possible. We are praying that this episode encourages you to reflect, reprioritize and hold tightly to the hope of Jesus!   Episode Highlights: Understanding addiction as a spectrum allows for earlier intervention and support. Acknowledging one's addiction is the first step towards healing and transformation. True recovery requires deep honesty and accountability beyond surface-level admissions. Embracing those with messy sanctification stories fosters healing and growth.  Identifying and correcting disordered priorities is crucial for recovery. Quotes from Today’s Episode: Part of what kept me in a disordered relationship with alcohol is what the devil uses “I don’t look or act like wh

Every marriage goes through seasons where spouses see the health of their relationship differently. Our unique physical needs, emotional capacities, and family backgrounds shape the expectations we bring into marriage and the ways we handle conflict. If you’re in a season where you feel unheard or disconnected, this episode offers practical ways to pursue your spouse, tools for having the hard conversations, and encouragement to take ownership of your part in the struggle. Most importantly, it will remind you that God cares deeply about you and your marriage, and you can trust Him to guide and protect it.   Episode Highlights: Each spouse has different emotional needs and brings different emotional baggage into a marriage.  It’s important to approach the content spouse with grace. Men and women have different relational needs.  Just because you don’t talk about, or acknowledge issues, doesn’t mean they will just go away. Even if you feel lonely and isolated and unheard in your marriage, you can trust the Lor

The next four Fridays I’m getting the opportunity to go a little broader than the topic of marriage and interview some incredible men who are authors, leaders, and strong men of faith. To kick it off, we are interviewing Mr. Joshua Ryan Butler to discuss his new book. God is on Your Side: How Jesus is for You When Everything Seems Against You.  In this episode, we explore what it really means to receive from Jesus instead of striving on our own. From the healing at the pool in John 5 to the picture of Barabbas’ pardon, we talk about how the gospel frees us from self-sufficiency, restores us in our failures, and feeds us when we feel empty. Together we wrestle with why we resist His help, how to cultivate spiritual hunger in a distracted world, and what it looks like to let Jesus shepherd us through shame, wounds, and wilderness seasons. It’s my prayer that this episode encourages you to believe God is on your side.   Episode Highlights: The Lord’s love is a freely given love. Earthly relationships may feel t

Are you truly satisfied, or always chasing more? This week we sit down with author Bobby Jamieson to talk about his book Everything Is Never Enough and the wisdom of Ecclesiastes. We’ll unpack why your spouse can’t be your joy, your job can’t be your purpose, and your family can’t give ultimate meaning. Real joy comes only from God; the giver, sustainer, and comforter. Anything else leaves us empty. Our hope is this conversation points you back to the only source who satisfies.   Episode Highlights: We are searching the world for a satisfaction that only comes from Him. It’s a crushing weight to expect our spouse to meet needs that only the Lord can meet. Desiring happiness and trying to create it will never work.  A life of ease doesn’t equal a life of joy.  Marriage is a gift to be nurtured. It’s daily decisions to care for, to provide for, to invest in your marriage.    Quotes from Today’s Episode: Happiness is a byproduct. If you just try to chase happiness directly, you're not really gonna

Is your spouse married to their job, or are you? In today’s episode, we’re talking about what happens when work takes priority over marriage and how couples can recognize the signs before it causes lasting damage. Let’s talk about why this is such a common struggle, what Scripture says about balancing work and marriage, and how to reconnect when work has created distance. If you’re feeling like your relationship is playing second to a career, this one’s for you. Let’s dive in.   Episode Highlights: God gave us ambition and talents for a reason. Work balance in marriage is a common struggle. We tried to look at struggles as growth opportunities instead of failures Society adds to the pressure we feel to pursue success first. If conversations become logistical or date nights become extinct you may be prioritizing work over your marriage. There’s a biblical order, that when we get that order right, everything else finds its proper place. Prayer reminds us who our work is truly for. Quotes from Today’s Episode:

Joining me today are Dave and Ann Wilson who have written a brand new book about what it looks like to speak life into our marriages; not just with the words we say, but also in the thoughts we choose to dwell on. We’ll talk about why trying to be your spouse’s Holy Spirit never works, why kindness is actually one of the most rebellious things we can do in today’s world, and how reframing our inner dialogue can change the way we manage conflict. Whether you’ve been shouting to be heard, or quietly holding back the pain of unspoken expectations, today’s conversation will offer biblical wisdom, practical tools, and fresh hope for building a marriage that reflects Christ’s love. We pray this episode encourages you! Episode Highlights:   How you approach the conversation matters.    Hope and joy can only be in the Lord.   Your words have the power to build up or tear down your spouse.   Gratitude for your spouse can change your perspective of your spouse.   Quotes from Today’s Episode: Men go where they're aff

Welcome back to the podcast, Nancy is joining me again today. These have become some of my favorite episodes, getting to do this with her!  Today we’re talking about something every marriage needs, and that's forgiveness and grace. We know that even in the best marriages, we hurt each other, sometimes in small ways, sometimes in big ways. The question isn’t if we’ll need to forgive, but how we can forgive well, and extend grace like God extends grace to us. Our prayer is that this is relatable and encouraging, but also that it inspires you to evaluate the opportunities you have every day to extend grace and forgiveness to your spouse.   Episode Highlights: It’s important to acknowledge where you are storing up resentment. Forgiveness is key in the big things, but even more important in the little nuances of life.  Marriage isn’t a game to keep score. When you know what a great sacrifice our Savior made, you’re able to come before Him and allow His forgiveness to pour through you onto our spouse. Both spouses

Today on the Awesome Marriage podcast, Dr. Kim is joined by Gabe and Rebekah Lyons to discuss their latest book The Fight for Us. Through 28 years of marriage, they realized as time went on that each of them brought their own differing perspectives, expectations, and emotional maturity to the marriage. The one common thread to connecting through all the differences is and will always be clear and effective communication. It will take a fight and it will take intentionality, but your marriage will thrive and it will absolutely be worth it. We are praying this episode encourages you to keep fighting for your marriage.   Episode Highlights: Husbands and wives are going to bring different levels of emotional maturity into the marriage. Don’t make an agreement with the idea of “it is what it is.”  It will take daily, intentional effort to give your marriage the nurturing it needs. Effective communication is at the cornerstone of a strong marriage. Differing expectations aren’t bad, they’re different.  Quotes fro

What if the chaos in your life and marriage isn’t random, but the result of living out of sync with God’s divine order? In this powerful episode, Dr. Kim welcomes pastor, author, and Bible teacher Manny Arango to the show for the first time. Drawing from his book Crushing Chaos, Manny shares how God brings peace by establishing order and how that same truth can transform our marriages. From understanding “Sequence, Authority, Rhythm” to identifying the chaos we invite into our homes, this conversation is full of practical wisdom and biblical depth. Whether you're navigating stress, disconnection, or just longing for more peace at home, this episode will help you move toward order, unity, and rest.   Episode Highlights: God’s first works calm the chaos. Understanding God’s context changes the way we read the Bible. God is an expert at not just blessing people with peace, but giving people order. We can’t make lasting decisions in our marriage based on a temporary rhythm. Boundaries are necessary for proper ord

In this episode, Dr. Kim opens up about how workplace relationships, especially dealing with negative and/or flirtatious coworkers, can impact marriage. He encourages couples to recognize these concerns, lean on biblical truth, and take intentional, practical steps to protect and strengthen their relationship. This episode reminds us of the power of open communication, the importance of setting healthy boundaries, and the hope we can find in trusting God through every season of marriage.   Episode Highlights: Concern about coworkers is a valid issue in marriages. Bad company can corrupt good character, as warned in scripture. It's essential to communicate concerns with love and honesty. Praying for wisdom and protection is crucial in navigating these situations. Strengthening the marriage bond is the best defense against outside influences. Being a positive influence in your spouse's life can counteract negative coworkers. Setting healthy boundaries for workplace relationships is necessary. Kn

In this episode of the Awesome Marriage Podcast, Dr. Kim sits down with special guest Amie Seiffert, author, speaker, and pastor, for a rich and real conversation about enjoying and engaging with God in every season. Amie shares her journey of faith and the ups and downs of pursuing her calling while raising a family. Together, they unpack the beauty of grace, the power of humor, and the comfort found in Scripture during life’s hardest seasons. Whether you’re navigating parenting, ministry, or marriage, this episode will remind you that God is present in every season. Episode Highlights: Grace is a central theme in ministry and relationships. Find opportunities to laugh together. Seasons of life are temporary and ever-changing.   Quotes from this Episode: This for now is not forever. We are held by grace.  Humor is such a way to bring things back down to earth. I don’t want to live offended. We have buzz words that bring each other back to reality. If I feel overwhelmed, I learned this at therapy, I will gi

Just when you thought you couldn’t love Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy more—this episode takes things to a whole new level. With honesty and heart, they open up about the real journey of their marriage—sharing the intentional choices, tough seasons, and deep faith that carried them through. From early challenges that could have pulled them apart to the daily decisions that drew them closer, their story reflects what’s possible when a couple chooses to build on the foundation of Christ. Their marriage is both relatable and inspiring—a powerful reminder that when God is kept first, a marriage doesn’t just survive—it thrives. Episode Highlights: Intentionality is key. Marriages won't thrive naturally. Taking ownership and openly communicating are important tools for successful marriages.   Quotes from this Episode: Don’t be negative.  I think we were in lust not in love. I think we had to build true love in our marriage. We’ve learned to build bit by bit. I thought if I loved you enough everything was going to be ok. Un

This is the perfect episode to kick off July, as this month at Awesome Marriage we’re highlighting the importance of dating your spouse. Arlene Pellicane joins me in the studio to talk about keeping your spouse first and your marriage fun! But what does that actually look like? In the midst of life’s demands, Arlene shares practical tips and loads of wisdom to help you keep investing in your marriage and enjoying your spouse. We pray this episode encourages your marriage. Episode Takeaways: Marriage and parenting are common pain points for many people. The divorce rate is down, but so is the marriage rate. Men are marrying later and less frequently than in the past. Gray divorce is on the rise, with more older couples divorcing. Couples often stay together for the kids but drift apart afterward. Awareness of vulnerability in marriage is crucial. Gratitude can transform how you view your spouse. Serving your spouse should be unconditional, regardless of their actions. Fun is essential in main

What does it really mean to be friends with God—and how can that friendship fill our lives with lasting joy? In this uplifting episode, we talk with Faith about how intimacy with God shifts our desires, strengthens our faith, and sustains us through hardship. We also explore how to take that next step into deeper friendship with Him, and what it practically looks like to live each day knowing God as both Father and Friend. Plus, don’t miss details on our journal giveaway over on Instagram @awesome_marriage! Episode Highlights: Friendship with God sparks joy in our lives. Joy is referenced over 400 times in scripture. Our default mode is to find joy in God's presence. Joy is not just a moment but a continuous state. The fall of humankind began when joy was sought outside of God. Joy is deeper than happiness; it encompasses peace and confidence. Every season of life has its own joy to discover. Jesus is the source of our completion and joy. Enjoying the Holy Spirit alters your desires. Acknowl

In today’s episode, we explore how constant connectivity and work stress can quietly invade our marriages. When work becomes all-consuming, it can turn into an idol and create emotional distance between spouses. We discuss why learning to leave work at work is a spiritual discipline and how true support means walking alongside your spouse, not having all the answers. You’ll hear practical wisdom on setting boundaries together, sharing burdens, and seeking counsel early. Marriage is about more than success—it’s about not facing struggles alone.   Episode Highlights:  Technology has blurred our boundaries between work and home.  Learning to leave work at work is a spiritual discipline. Being supportive doesn’t mean you have to all the answers- it means you’re walking alongside your spouse. The pace of modern culture doesn’t allow proper mental closure.   Quotes from Today’s Episodes: A lot of people in the workplace feel the expectation to be available 24/7/365 Work problems begin to feel like personal probl